New here needing help

Hi shellmick1

You have made a good step joining the community there is a lot of unity on here and with that comes strength and proven cases you can give up gambling if your willing to put the effort in,
When you got caught before what did you try to stop gambling?
Something worth doing is hand the finances over to your partner as daunting as it sounds it will make your life much easier for now and can concentrate on getting a hold of the addiction.
Have you spoken in depth about it with anyone? That's also key share what's going on with someone you trust, honesty is a major part to play to,
Have a look around the website there is lots of tools to utilise,
Don't look far in the future take it one day at a time and less if you need to .

Matt

Hi shellmick

welcome to this forum. That is a great start. It will certainly stop you in your tracks from gambling. I know there are other things to consider also but at least, you now know, that you have made it virtually impossible to gamble again. How about setting up a diary on here now? It is really easy and as you mentioned, it is a place where you can note all your feelings down.

wishing you strength and luck on your new journey.

Our Lady

Thank you matt and our Lady, tbh the first time I just kinda stopped myself for a while but then i went online and thought just 20 pounds and I'm sure you can guess what happened from there. This time I have been completely honest with my partner and myself about what has been going on and I definitely feel stronger for it. It was hard actually admitting what had been going on and he was very very angry with me but at least he's still here and says he will support me if I can show that I am willing to stop, which has bought me to this point. Thank you again.

That's great you have come clean
Well done that's one of the hardest part! It sounds daft but being completely honest in your life will make dealing with this illness a lot easier, from things you have read and seen would you say you are a compulsive gambler? Can you admit that to yourself??

Good morning, I hope your feeling a little better or clearer on things. Your here which means you want too stop, but wether you actually stop is down too you, I have relapsed a few times and know where I went wrong. I am in no place too give advice like some on here who have won or are winning their fight, but I can help with where I went wrong? I let myself get through my blocks! And didn't get enough support, after a few months I let my partner believe I was fixed and he handed everything back,I lied and I have now had too tell him I'm a liar and that I am not too be trusted, it's awful...he has too treat me like a child instead of his partner and it's a great weight of responsibility, but for me there is no other way, I have no access too gambling sites, no money, a ga meeting on Sunday night and a dose of an alternative therapy that I feel has helped me start my journey. I'm getting as much as I possibly can in place...then the rest is down too me and how much I want a 'normal' life. I hope you have a good day 🙂

my first day on the road to a new life,hopefully this will help. i have let my family down bigtime,

eddie1801 wrote:

my first day on the road to a new life,hopefully this will help. i have let my family down bigtime,

my second day without online slots, feels hard going,but now my wife controls all the money. cannot believe i lost over 17000 on the online,slots.it all started with a couple of big win 1 of 7500 and 1 of 3500. so i carried on thinking i would never lose.what a fool i have been.

Hi Eddie I hope you are well!!

You start a little diary let people know own how you are doing and a little about what has brought you to the site, you have done great to make this first step and handing finances over, make sure you are honest and with that and your willingness you will make great progress

These Slot machines are fixed and will never give you a fair game, I have played slots for many years and lost I try to stop and do for some months and then have a relaspe, I lost money today £200 I am on holiday this week so normally dont have time to go to bookies but god knows why I did, I even had a dream that with slots never wining and still I go in. I wasthinking of going to see a show tonight it was £40 and I thought that was expensive ha, 1 hour later lose 200 and have notting to show for it makes you feel sick. Gambling is eveil and dangouers and will take you to the gutter. We must keep trying to stop and not give them our money.

eddie1801 wrote:

my second day without online slots, feels hard going,but now my wife controls all the money. cannot believe i lost over 17000 on the online,slots.it all started with a couple of big win 1 of 7500 and 1 of 3500. so i carried on thinking i would never lose.what a fool i have been.

Thank you all for your words of support, I am still gamble free so almost 2 weeks now and I have had money go into my bank account which is normally when I give in but I know I have far too much to lose now and the thought of getting all the bills sorted out and being on top of things, having some savings and being able to treat my children and my partner and I is really keeping me going. I'm feeling strong but I know I have to stay on top of this or a relapse is inevitable so strong is the way forward. Thank you all again.

Well done on reaching 2 weeks. A day for a compulsive gambler is an achievement, so two weeks is excellent.

Just keep the positive attitude up and if you feel the urge, come on here and read how far you've already come.