Hello
my name is Er I have been gambling since I was 18 I'm now 28 I do everything form roulette spending lots of money to scratch cards 49s lottery. I only work part time and every month I'm struggling - 2 weeks into getting paid have no money and going into my overdraft.
I've been with my partner for 13 years even now he's getting stressed that I keep just wasting my money and have nothing to show. It's not even like I'm winning. I play bingo which I enjoy and would like to continue as I only go twice a week but it's the scratch cards and roulette where I'm spending between £20 - £80 a time
Many thanks in advance don't get paid until next Friday
Hi er the general advice would be to quit gambling all together including bingo.
On the basis would an alcoholic be OK if they only drunk beer and just stopped drinking shorts
The problem isn't the type of gambling. It's gambling as a whole that's got you where you are today. But it's your choice at the end of the day
All the best
I have a feed. I was new yesterday.
Someone is helping me understand .. maybe read my post as I'm the spouse. Maybe you'll see if from our side rather than just your own? I know it's your addicted mind that forces you maybe just one more. Maybe just 10..
But maybe if you saved you could go out for a meal with your partner? Buy yourself something nice rather than having nothing to show.
Join a gym. Find a hobby. Occupy your mind.
Good luck
Thank you both for your help.. I am in no debt - I suffer with mental health and find it difficult to explain to my partner how I am feeling... He wants what's best for me as well for me to cut back, what I want more than anything is to get engaged and go on a nice holiday abroad all this I fear I can't do if I can't control what I am doing.
My first step has to be next Friday when I get paid to make the change and say enough - I've given 10 years of my life to gambling, still go to bingo but no more roulette, scratch cards
Do not go to bingo. Do not kid or fool yourself. You need to remain abstinent.
Can a drug addict use paracetamol? No.
Only when supervised by a doctor because once an addict unfortunately always will be. This does not mean life can't be fun.
I didn't realise until two years in being very young that my partner was an addict.
I watched my uncle as I grew up always drunk first at party. Always ringing my mum drunk. Always complaining. He'd give up. He'd fight. Then he got lonely being single. Then he said just one on a date so it wasn't weird. Now he's the drunk again. He's an functioning alcoholic because he can work, because he hasn't got that bad.
Why risk it?
It's no fun when your always going to loose. Unless you own the bookies or sites your always going to loose. Maybe not this time. Maybe not next time. But inevitably always.
I only spend what I can afford but that's my mind set. Totally different to my OH
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