Relapsed/feel ashamed

Dazza, you need real life support & the best way for this is to get to a GA meeting...People there understand your pain & will show you how to better cope with your life so that you can manage the negative feelings you are having.

The chat room is open for an hour @ 1900 & 2100 hours tonight but please also remember the Samaritans are on the end of a phone 24/7 on 116123 if you are feeling dark.

We've all done stupid things as gamblers, things we're not proud of, only you can decide how you are going to turn this bad choice around & make better ones moving forwards - ODAAT

Hi I'm the same I can't help but do this think what little can 50 do I'm ashsmded of myself to my family my kids every think I feel your pain

Hi.

We have all been there and its the addiction talking. The reality is that you will lose that first amount and the reality is that we dont like losing money.

You wouldnt hand me £50 in the street but the result is the same. You end up £50 lighter and you couldnt really/didnt want to lose that sort of money. The gambling dens work on highly calculated odds that if 99 people for example lose, they can pay out the blue moon occasion where somebody might win. They pay with other punters money and you need to focus that all the risk is really with you. Most people lose and thats how it works for the gambling dens

I used to come from a shop when I was humming and hawing over saving a pound on a item. Do I buy the £4.99 item or this £5,99 item?...which is better and I would save a pound.

Then I would think nothing of entering an arcade/bookies with the false assumption that I will just win a little bit and what harm can a tenner do. I ignored the odds, I didnt understand the odds and I certainly wasnt really playing for the little false wins of a few pounds. In psychology thay are termed as false wins because nobody is really playing to achieve those and they gave me no hit compared with playing. £500 down later with no food in the cupboards, I had that ultra low feeling that I wanted the world to swallow me up.

However the addiction was so strong that I was back whenever I had money, doing the same thing

Its an addiction and indeed an illness. You must take all the blocking measures and control of your finances that we recommend.

If they were offering a months finances for a small stake nobody would go to work. They are not offering you that at odds you understand or face up to. There is no system to beat roulette and the fruit machines are even worse odds. Most gamblers are playing for dopamine or pure escape from lifes woes

The addiction clouds your judgement and when you are in full recovery and look back on it you will realise how addicted and out of touch you were.

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

Thank you all for your replys..much appreciated: )

Dazza171,

I feel your pain mate. I am in a very similar position. I managed three days gamble free, three frickin' days before I could not stop my self opening a new online casino account. Guess what...I won £700 off of £50.

You can guess the rest, withdrawl (feeling good about myself, determined that i was going out with a bang), thought I could get a slightly bigger bang. Reversal, lose it all, invest more, lose that. I then repeatedly cut myself last night.

Seriously, I'm a 40 year old bloke with a wife and kids. What am I doing with my life?

Burko please contact me privately mate..

Dazza171 wrote: Burko please contact me privately mate..

Am probably being stupid here, but I cannot see how to?

My email is [email protected]. be nice to try and help each other out.