It's time for me to come out with everything to my girlfriend admit to my debt that been caused by gambling around £8k and that I've majorly screwed up (again) I'm praying she sticks by me and gives me 1 last chance to prove to her and my son that I don't want this life anymore that I'm going to put in every block available to not let this keep getting the better of me!! Hope this goes my way please god let her stick with me
Hello Fufc321 and welcome to the forum
Talking with your girlfirend about your problem gambling, admitting to your debt and getting blocks in place are positive steps to getting support and making the change that you want. There is also a helpline where you can speak with an advisor if you would like further information on other support available to you. The Helpline is open 8am -midnight and the contact number is 08 08 80 20 133
Please see link with information on online blocks available to you. http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-advice/what-can-you-do/blocking-software#.VwjYNPkrIdV
You may want to contact a debtline for free debt advice if so please see here for Stepchange http://www.stepchange.org
Stepchange contact telphone number is 0800 138 1111
Keep posting Fufc321 we are here to support you.
I spoke to a gamcare advisor last night and that's what's convinced me to do it not just for my family but for myself aswell
Good Man! Its phoning Gamcare and stepping up to the plate that makes you the man in facing this.
They will have given you plenty of help and advice. There are ways of telling people close and you could almost immediately say what you are going to do like hand over control of your finances and put blocks on
The love and support of your girlfriend can be a great help in getting things under control.
She needs your honesty and you need your honesty to beat this. Im sure you have a strong relationship that can beat this. She wants to know the whole you and not a furtive gambler with secrets.
Keep ringing gamcare when you feel low because you need that one to one voice.
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
Hi Fufc and welcome to the forum , great that youv'e decided to give up gambling as the longer you go the worse it becomes , 8k is a fair debt and its aboiut the same as I came away with when I stopped gambling about 7 months ago .
I say its a fair debt but also one that can be repaid over time and at an amount that suits you and you have to look at the positive that now youv'e decided to stop it won't be increasing anymore . Its all about change my friend and " Nothing changes if nothing changes " So make a plan to keep your time , money , location, triangle broken ( by removing one , you cant bet ) at all times . I don't know a lot of your story , what you gambled on and where but again self excluding from everywhere you gambled is also a good move .
I hope things work out for you with your girlfriend and your definately doing the right thing by coming clean with her , I did with my partner and it was one of the best decisions I've made , no secrets , no lies makes moving forward much easier .
Look forward to hearing more of your story in the future , best wishes for now and I hope things go well !
Alan
Hi Fufc,
It's a hard decision to make but the correct one. Don't hide anything as you're more than likely going to be in the last chance saloon so if anything comes out afterwards you'll regret it. My wife took me owning up well, but the next 2-3 nights she was the one upset asking all the questions. Some of the questions seem crazy, like the answers but that's because she doesn't understand the life and mind of a gambler.
You'll know when the time is right. Good luck mate hope it goes as well as it can.
I've come in from work and football sat my girlfriend down and told her.... And she's willing to stick with me and help me through this addiction!! It's has made my week and has also gave me that life and push to phone people to do the blocks to start putting the measures in place that I needed to do to stop hopefully this is day 1 of many and day 1 to a brighter future and happier life
Well done fella and good call !!
All the best .........................AL
Thank you Alan still a very long gruelling way to go but suppose the first steps are the important ones to cut the supply
The first steps are always the hardest ones to take , especially when you can't always see the staircase in front of you .
Just take it one day at a time and with little steps and you'll be fine .
Have a good evening Buddy !
Well done Fufc. You've done the best thing coming clean. Getting caught out can just make a CG lie and deny more! Two things we are good at. Now there's the two of you in the recovery, help and support each other. Your partner will probably hurting more than you at the moment and will have a few questions to get off her chest. Keep your cool with these.
All the best, let us know how you get on.
Well done on coming clean to your oh and you can now move forward.
Questions may need to be answered in the upcoming days / months but answer them honestly and calmly.
I confessed aДєl before being found out and that was me hitting rock bottom.
Maybe this is now yours and you and your partner can move forward one day at a time.
Best wishes
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