Today I lost £1800 - perhaps for the best?

Hi Jack25,

Firstly youve made the first move to stop which is good. That weird feeling you talk about i experienced, feels like your numb to the world.
I lost 6500 in one day all my savings really and had to start from scratch, wont lie it'll be hard first few days/weeks but you can get through it. My advice set little goals to meet, and reward yourself for say a week gambling free. Also limit your access to money, self exclude and fill your time you would gamble with others things.
Any help you need or just talk people on here going through what you are. Stay strong.
Tnsk

Thanks Tnsk - what were your steps to recovering you losses?

Still on the long road to recover my losses. Try and right off the losses and start from scratch gambling free you'll earn much more in your life then you ever would gambling!
Hard to do i'm nearly a month free and got a long way to go to earn money back i lost, thing is if the money had a set purpose or i had a goal for it i might not of gambled it.
Access to money is a big factor in gambling, if you can give your money to a loved one/mate or just put it in savings account you cant access.
Think of what you will do now with money you earn and look to the future, regret will be with you but try use it as a motivator to never gamble again.

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Hi Jack...

As with the above comment, do not comtemplate about recovering your losses....you are from NOW a winner....by not gambling! it's not about how much you've lost in a day or a lifetime, it's what you are going to win by not trying to win it bacck, your pride, self asteem and your life! Money pays your bills and gets you what you need, or want in life, but put what you've given away to the evil illness, behind you and focus on what you have now got to do...I'm 42 days into recovering, I'm logging on because I'm feeling weak, I've had a kifetime of gambling and it has almost ruined me, I've lost 100's of Thousands of £'s, but I know I'll never recover it, and you know what, I'm not interested in recovering a penny through gambling....I just don't want to gamble, because when ever you win, you'd lose it all (The Money) again, as well as lose your way again!

Keep strong, it's very hard, but every day is a battle when you have regrets about your losses! Look forward to a possitive and rewarding future without the greed, guilt and regret, and every other emotional destoying feeling that comes with gambling...The highs are short lived!!!!!

Be possitive and KEEP posting your thoughts and DAILY achievements! (I never end with good luck, there is no luck involved!!!)

Hi, your mind will shortly start to think about the money you lost but fight back because £1800 is a small price to pay to abstain from gambling, even for a few months. Draw a line and forget the money, it was never a life changing sum, but it could be if you continue to give in to temptation. Stay strong, try and go to a GA meeting.

Thank you Tnsk, Joydivider, Deanboy and orbits all for your comments and own stories - they generally are extremely helpful and staying strong is certainly the biggest thing.

I absolutely hate being in debt so getting out of it is important to me - therefore I won't be able to find it easy to forget about the money.

I have however set up a plan to pay it back - and should be debt free by this time next year .. IFF(!!) I stop gambling now.

Here goes. 🙂

Good luck Jack in your fight with gambling. I too have plans in place, just month at a time little goals so it doesnt seem so far away. Small steps and always be on your guard becausw the urges will come but stay strong and have measures in place and you will beat this. Try forget about the money lost but use it as a reminder anytime you think of gambling as to what you can lose. The money will come back and life will be better for no gambling.

No one likes being in debt, just focus on paying back what you owe and don't contemplate trying to gamble to pay it off quicker, because ultimately, if not immediately, you'll increase your debt even further....trust me, we've all been there!!!

Stay strong and keep us posted on progress....

Hey jack

My story is quite similar and happened very quickly. I was playing with small amounts and did quite well so started betting bigger. Sure enough I didn't win on those occasions and so my money spiralled downwards. Unfortunately I was always good with money and had access to a lot of credit. I managed to spend £17,000 that I didn't really have trying to chase that loss before I finally succumbed to the inevitability of not getting it back.

My advice, speak to someone (partner, parents, gamcare), accept your loss and don't bother trying to win it back again and look to the future. I've endeavoured to work extra to pay the money off I've spent with the intention that because I wouldn't normally have worked those days then it almost balances it out. The sums of money for either of us are likely to be quite insignificant compared to what you can earn over even a few years. Concentrate on other hobbies or interests and i think you'll see an improvement.

Biggest change for me was just accepting it. The money still needs to be paid but I'm happy at home rather than always wanting or thinking about gambling!

Hope that helps

Freshman247

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