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Well done Joseph, each day you are gamble free you are on the road to recovery and your life will slowly improve. Keep up the good work, you will get urges if you were gambling for lenghty spells previously so put barriers in place to make it difficult for you to gamble when these urges arise, self excludsion with gamstop, having a partner/family member or someone close oversee your financies or even take full financial control to help keep you in check.

If you have any questions feel free to ask here as people are happy to help

Thanks for the reply, Joe.

I have put forces/bans on all possible ways to gamble and have no control over finances which kind of feels like a massive weight off my shoulder. (I'm sure everyone knows the feeling)

Here's to the road to recovery, all replies very much welcomes.

All the best,

J

Welcome J.
I am 6 days gf and Tuesday is a trigger day for me. So taking it easy today with a new book. We'll done for starting your journey. Keep in touch.
JB

Hi, JB.

My trigger days are Tuesdays and Saturdays, so i know the feeling.

In a great place currently and wish to only get stronger.

Am here if you need any advise/chat.

All the best,

J

Hi Joe, your one day ahead of me, I'm on day 2 currently.

I hope you will always stay one day ahead and we make it through to brighter days.

All I can say is stay vigilant, I have relapsed a million times, at any moment. So day 1 seems like a never ending mountain. I hope we repeat this conversation on day 365

JuneBug81 wrote: Hi Joe, your one day ahead of me, I'm on day 2 currently. I hope you will always stay one day ahead and we make it through to brighter days. All I can say is stay vigilant, I have relapsed a million times, at any moment. So day 1 seems like a never ending mountain. I hope we repeat this conversation on day 365

I hope so, June.

Wishing you all the very best for the long road ahead.

What made you stop this time round?

J

Im new too...i cant for the life of me figure out how to my own thread?! Iv just been in the chatroom & already feeling abit better with the support shown. Day 3 for me.

Welcome, InTooDeep.

On the forum page, just click the New Topic icon to start a new thread.

How's your first three days Gambling Free been? What clicked 4 days ago to make you want to stop?

Cheers! Well basically cos im banned from the site now !

id put in place a temp ban before Christmas and literally the day it was up i was back on and spent ALOT - for some reason more than ever before and then i got this email from their social responsibility team saying theyd noticed an increase in amount/activity so i had to speak 2 them. So i just ignored them phoning me... then they emailed again and said theyd locked my account until i speak to them.

But im not tempted to go back - i feel iv reached rock bottom.Now just need to dig myself out x

Past few days iv actually been physically ill which i honestly think is stress induced worrying about the money and keeping it from my partner as iv had the ultimatum hed leave me if i gamble again 🙁 🙁

InTooDeep wrote:

Cheers! Well basically cos im banned from the site now !

id put in place a temp ban before Christmas and literally the day it was up i was back on and spent ALOT - for some reason more than ever before and then i got this email from their social responsibility team saying theyd noticed an increase in amount/activity so i had to speak 2 them. So i just ignored them phoning me... then they emailed again and said theyd locked my account until i speak to them.

But im not tempted to go back - i feel iv reached rock bottom.Now just need to dig myself out x

Past few days iv actually been physically ill which i honestly think is stress induced worrying about the money and keeping it from my partner as iv had the ultimatum hed leave me if i gamble again 🙁 🙁

Sorry to hear you ain't feeling too great. Each day will get better and better, I can feel it can myself already. Just try and stay calm because the storm is over now. Start to realise how precious life is and to waste no more time. Keep checking in on this thread because i believe we can all do this.

The thing i noticed with myself and it seems a common denominator is how much we take our partners for granted. I felt so bad looking at the person i love the most in the world being distrought over my illness.

Like i said those days are behind us!

All the best,

J

Feeling really sick andanxious is mainly to do with being scared of his reaction - we've been together 3yrs and before me he smoked weed...he said it was the right time to give up and be a proper family with me n my little boy. He managed it cold turkey and attending face to face counselling sessions. he was so strong with beating his addiction. Not like me, iv just re-lapsed over n over. I've hadso many temprary breaks from sites n gone back on thinking oh il be fine now!

Anyway in Dec when he discovered id been gambling again he started smoking weed again. So i dont want to tell him, because i dnt want to be his trigger. Its so good to have someone to talk to. Even today just on the chat forum earlier made me feel a little better. Gave me abit of hope. Alot worse has been seen on here.

Whats yours story? x

InTooDeep wrote:

Feeling really sick andanxious is mainly to do with being scared of his reaction - we've been together 3yrs and before me he smoked weed...he said it was the right time to give up and be a proper family with me n my little boy. He managed it cold turkey and attending face to face counselling sessions. he was so strong with beating his addiction. Not like me, iv just re-lapsed over n over. I've hadso many temprary breaks from sites n gone back on thinking oh il be fine now!

Anyway in Dec when he discovered id been gambling again he started smoking weed again. So i dont want to tell him, because i dnt want to be his trigger. Its so good to have someone to talk to. Even today just on the chat forum earlier made me feel a little better. Gave me abit of hope. Alot worse has been seen on here.

Whats yours story? x

I really do hope you start feeling better soon.

I have basically gambled since i can remember to be honest, mainly on sports.

I knew a few years abck that things were bad but i just tried to ignore it.

My girlfiend of 3 years had some anxiety issues which i helped her overcome and made me so proud.

I, however continued gambling. I hated myself for this but i just couldnt stop, every day i would be looking for a sport event to have a bet on.

Now with 4 months until my first child is born something inside of me has changed and I really want the best for all three of us.

I'm only on day 2 of being clean, but my mindset is as strong as ever.

So does your gf have no idea then? and your not gonna tell her so as not to set her off?

I reckon with a baby coming thats defo the biggest incentive you will ever get to change your life. I really hope you do it!

Are you in any debt? Because saving what you'd usually spend is really gonna mount up n helps so much!

Yeah she knows but I told her I have stopped earlier than I have.. yes I am in debt and slowly paying it all off.. just take each day as it comes. How are you feeling?