A New Life GF

Hi DaveyJ,

Well done for your post, thanks for sharing your story with us in the forum.

I’m glad you’ve come to the realisation that you need to do something about your gambling problem, and has taken the first steps in doing so.

You’ve also taken a step in the right direction by seeking additional help from Step Change for your debts management. I’ll encourage you to try and keep to the terms of the agreement so you don’t have letters chasing you to pay debts. With the financial arrangement in place, it would at least give you some peace of mind to focus on other areas of your life to help with your recovery.

Maybe you’d like to contact our free phone Helpline on: 0808 8020 133, and speak to one of our advisers for further help and support.

Thanks one again for your post, and please keep posting!

Best wishes,

Beatrice

Well done for coming here to make that first step! It's a great little community I reccomend just throwing yourself into it.

Have you considered coming to one of the chatrooms? We all chat about how we're feeling and offer some great tips to avoid the temptation and get your recovery on the best path.

Thanks admin. adam i had a little rant in chat yesterday and the guys there were brill. The temptation is very strong right now fortunately im working nightshift all weekend so hopefully that and the forum can keep me on the right path. Just need to take things one day at a time.

Onto my second day gamble free. Woke up after the nightshift feeling down again today. Ive got very little money left to last until payday and the demon inside has been tempting me with promises of a win if i deposit my last and go for it. Had to remind myself that even if i somehow managed to win i wouldn't stop until i had lost anyway. Its horrible how this addiction works to convince you that the cure for the trouble gambling has put you in is to gamble some more. Im committed to staying gamble free today decided to log on here and post to help strengthen my resolve. Hope everyone else doing well on their GF journey today.

David

Hi Dave

Well done for coming on here.. It is the start of a long journey yes but one that does get easier even after a few days.

Like you I am new to admitting my problem fully and trying to do something about it for real! I am only on day 4 this time off of the back of my biggest win of 17,000 which "should" mean I'm debt free.......guess what.....blew the lot. Gambled for so long and chased with the intention of getting debt free but such is a CG mindset, I wanted 30,000.

Now I admit my problem like you and admit that no matter what I will always lose because enough is never enough!

Only now do I feel I can totally atop gambling- but that's now I'm "going all the way". Using here to post daily, got counselling and had my first session, opened uo to my girlfriend, and put all the blocks in place I could.

I have 3-4 years of paying debts now all because I don't value money....you will get through it pal keep posting and stay GF

Cheers

Hi all,

Day 3 gamble free. Today was an easy day to be honest still on the nightshift so by the time i woke up was time for work so no real time to be thinking of gambling. Not looking forward to the next few days as will not be working. Altho in fairness i have little money till payday anyway will go and spend it in diesel and groceries tomorrow so i can't gamble it. The weekend is going to be the real challenge for me I get paid on friday and im off all weekend im worried as the initial excitement of stopping gambling i feel is waring off also made the mistake of watching a few vids of streamers on youtube and its got me wanting to have a shot. Wish me luck and take care all.

Today I Will Not Gamble!

David

I think when you stop you kind of come out of yourself and cant really fathom the amounts, they dont make sence, thats why you can stay stuck in the web, you think " I'm f ed already why not get another loan or get this CC limit increased" and it goes on, I thought 5 years for me was a long sentance, but 11 is a long stretch, but you dont want to be 51 and still be addicted to this addiction that will happily keep you for the rest of your life, a gamble free life beats all those hours lost watching those spinning reels or a ball spinning on a game that no one has ever cracked, chasing a dream that will not arrive.

Well im back to day 1. I relapsed 10min ago and found a site i hadn't excluded from and lost my last £50. Same old story turned my £50 into £175 which would've really helped me right now but no i couldn't stop and lost the lot! Feeling very dissapointed with myself but im going to pick myself up and soldier on. Your right smashed and that is exactly the frame of mind that caused my relapse today. The 11 is certainly a long stretch altho thankfully (maybe) i can't blame the lot on gambling most was from a toxic relationship which i think contributed to me turning to gambling in the first place. The gambling losses amount to maybe a quarter of my debts my ex partner accounts for the rest.

Been in your shoes, head in hands, but believe me it does change when you stop. I was in a dark place a different person, a different Dad, but people on here know where your at and where you have been and can definately help.

Thanks Smashed, i really want to beat this. Im so angry with myself for having a bet today i didn't even enjoy it. I stopped enjoying roulette a long time ago. Nevermind heres hoping that £50 will be money well spent if it means its the last i will ever gamble. Take care all.

David