Abstain and maintain.Stepping forward never back.

hi duncs just popping in to say hello 🙂 haven't been posting everyday been so busy i got a new puppy with money iv'e been saving 🙂 great to see you enjoying life ( your wife and doggie ) 🙂 and you are still bet free well done, i am on day 50+ now cant believe it i'm finding it easier and don't seem to notice adverts or machines anymore, cant believe how my life has changed in so little time! take care duncs

Hollie xxx

evening diary. No post yesterday too busy to stop and today just stopped! After rising at half 5 had a wedding to cater for in our private dining room for 40 lunch and evening plus the dining room. Glad to have given my number 2 a well earnt rest as he is cooking on all cylinders again and i know how far he can push himself so will help in the future. I have to say i have not read a paper for 2 days or seen much tv well except the goodfellas last night! Late lol. So the big racing event has passed me by without registering. I really do need to after tuesday address the work/home balance as i feel i am becoming like a ship that passes in the night, so i intend as i wednesday my wedding anniversary to give a lot more time to home life i feel i have installed a great work ethic into my staff and hope to have changed some peoples outlook on what they serve and how it is best done, so i will be ok to take a breath the first in 7 continuous weeks i worked out i have only missed 11 plates of food cross the pass in this time. I feel amazing and plead with all my gamcare family to give life your all it works we can take that stick beat a path toward light all by each day gathering ourselves our resolve and step forward never back by those three beautiful words "NO BET TODAY" duncs compulsive gambler no bet today.(on way home for a soak and a snuggle! Yes with my bag of bones hovis! Lol then my inspiration my sarah. )

morning diary. I am on way the charge to sunday lunch, half a dozen beautiful ribs of beef in so time to dip into the forum to pay my respects to all of you, i doff my cap to everyone who has shown that there is soo much unconditional humility upon this forum that it makes me burst with pride just belonging. I know that at it as a compulsive gambler i could not even care for myself and even less those i professed to love around me, today i have through recovery the ability to not judge, to be reasoned to belong to something where like minded people are the same the take there time to offer a hand a word of kindness or advice. To end i will do my best for myself and others why? Because i duncs do really care there is no scam no catch like whilst at it just an unconditional want to live and let live. I hope the sun shines upon you all and yes the rain outside has returned but inside this forum it will always shine. Thankyou. Duncs stepping forward never back. No bet today.

Hi Duncs

Truly I am reading all your posts and they make total sense ..I am getting round to reposting now and thank you for your words and honesty from your own life.

I am confused and extremely vulnerable and trying to work out some insurance policy for myself so i'm never caught out again.

I've spent a large part of my life being nice and it has brought me only unhappiness.

Thanks again for your wonderful support and I truly am so glad you and your Sarah have found a way through all this..I wish I had Sarahs qualities but I don't which is why Im struggling.

I shall keep reading your posts...

Rachel and Dotty xxx

Duncs

That took my breath away, 7 weeks and only missed 11 plates of food. I thought I worked hard.

So pleased you are going to have a well earned rest, cause I could not think of anyone who deserves it more.

When I think we're you were to where you are now it's astounding. Part of me is slightly saddened cause I know we will never knowing meet as I would have found it a great honour to shake your hand, in a mark of the utmost respect I have for you .

Dusty xxxx

Morning Duncs

I just love reading your posts Duncs , they are always full of hope , love and enthusiasium for life

You give me soooo much hope for a better life by remaining bet free and I am really starting to see that now !

Hope you are at the stove ready for a busy bank holiday and then some time off soon to have some precious time for Sarah and you cause Duncs you sure deserve it

Keep strong and keep stepping forward

Lucy

hiya Duncs

Got hold of the rope again and hauling up....thanks once again for your support and your kindness...I was in a very dark place but can see some light.

Hope it's all going well at the restaurant and you will be flat out no doubt with holiday season..

lots of bones for Hovis!

Wishing you and your good lady Sarah a lovely weekend .

She is incredibly generous to let us have your time when you write to us and for that please pass on my warmest thoughts as your input on here helps so many people to keep on the right side of the tracks''.....xxxx

Rach and Dotty xxx

morning diary. On route to work feeling the affects of an evening of drinking several pints of real ale, what set out to be a quiet few pints turned into us stumbling into a street party, glad to say my wife by my side what fun we had and eldest to guide us home lol. Lucy you are soo right we all can live a full and better life by making the right choice NO BET TODAY. We all have our own recovery stratagy and as long as the end result is the same that is what counts and for me my resolve gets stronger daily and i feel proud that i can see the people around me can also see it and i know that i do have a choice and one day at a time i will remind myself of that choice. We can all make today better than yesterday in the knowledge that tomorrow we can better it still. I am cooking staff breakfast this morning kedgeree as i know like me there will be a few foggy heads to clear before service lol! Enjoy your bank holiday one and all i know i will, and on the job front the owner has asked if i will with the bar manager look after the place if he has a holiday which i am happy to do and know it is a trust i will not be letting down i will add this to my armoury and not be looking back. Thanks for all your posts i will be back tonight to post. Duncs stepping forward never back.

well done mate

Hi Duncanmac

Another great post and ur so right everyones journey is different and we all av different ways of recoveries but the great thing is that we all respect people's view and just support them whatever

Like u I'm on a working bank holiday but it keeps us busy and our time will come for a hard earned rest

We still find time though to help and support and that's what it is all bout

Take care

Castle2

19 weeks gamble free. No bet today. The 3 words that got me here one day at a time. I have read some priceless posts upon our forum today and fully recovered from the night of drinking on sunday i today feel like i am at the start of another marathon, refreshed cobwebs blown away and my feet feel like new! Why because i like many others know that i will always be a compulsive gambler and in recovery and i know each day i will decide my own fate. I will live in respect of this fact but today i with honesty can say i no longer fear my compulsion i respect it. I have my barriers in place they will remain and i will keep them that way. To have a punt would take it all away so how much would that be worth that punt PRICELESS and i wont waste what i have on it. I have all a man could wish for "a mayonaise jar full of golf balls" (thanks ade and to all fellow members please read this post from his diary) so today i will do something to make someone smile and in turn make myself do just that, to one and all be kind to yourselves and enjoy this recovery by making that choice one day at a time. Stepping forward never back. Duncs compulsive gambler 19 weeks no bet.

19 weeks bet free brillant duncan

Morning Duncs,

I point you in the direction of your post on Sunday morning at 8.23am brilliant!!! I couldn't have put it better myself. Gambling is a lonely game very much a one person affair so it's inevitable during our time as gamblers we would be selfish and neglect others!

One of the true beauties of recovery is we really go out of our way to please others, mayb it's the sheer guilt of times past but does it matter why others are smiling as long as we are putting that smile there!

As you have prob read I am a man of numbers and your 19 weeks equates to 133 days I am sure you know that but I like to write the figure it gives me something to aim at! Regardless of the number you are still staying bet free and finding the time to support many others on their journey!

Thanks Duncs for all the support!

Flagg

Hiya Duncs

I am always absolutely blown away at your positivity my friend on here ....every day you have something good to give and your recovery goes from strength to strength every day...

Thank you so much for being there during my dark days and as you said..I am coming back to life..

You say some really lovely things Duncs .... when we are down our vision gets so polarised and tunnel so we cant see anything else right?

With your and everyone support I am coming back up again and seeing the bigger picture...

Love to you and yours and sending a pat on the head to Hovis xx

Rachel and Dotty xx

19 weeks is phenomenal, well done!

Long may this continue!

NT