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I have attended a ga meeting it showed me that there are others worse than me.i have done mentoring courses so I know what

I should be telling myself.I don't think gambling is now a problem( ok easy said) it's more my complete depression which is linked to more than one facet of my life,but depression has been with me longer than gambling.I will see the therapist it's just that a lot of reviews on therapists seem to point they have a handbook and if your problem doesn't appear in the handbook well that's it.

And to be honest there didn't seem a lot of camaderie at the ga meeting.

And I probably couldn't risk telling me wife as she has high Bp is on 16 tablets a day for various things has strokes in the family history.So if I tell her she might suffer physically as well as mentally .As I am giving up gambling I cant take a risk on my wife's health.......or maybe you would but then again you aren't married to her! And it would be a gamble to tell her

day@atime wrote: Is that your experience from attending or are you another who dismisses it without ever actually trying it. You do not have to be or become religious for it to work. I would much rather people said i cant be a*s ed to attend that it seems like hard work than trot out childlike objections about it being religious

and I can't see how telling anybody they are childlike does anybody any good personally

I didnt say you were childlike i said your judgement of GA on very little experience of it was. I read in your posts lots & lots of things you wont do but not much that you will. When i was gambling i found hundreds of excuses why things wouldnt work for me but struggled to try anything that might. You are already even making excuses that your counselling will be a waste of time before attending. If you dont want to be honest with your wife fine. If you dont want to attend GA fine. If you think counselling wont work fine. It makes no difference to me which is why i & others can give you an honest opinion of what can work for you. Your choice whether you attempt to change things or continue to believe what you do works

Although to be fair to your views ADDif I have it I have a very low level to stay with something.i have lost count of the number of hobbies started,languages attempted to learn. Japanese chinese spanish etc etc,failed exams ,some passed usually taken ata ridiculous speed,so this would make any sticking to whatever programme very difficult,although I once did raise a considerable amount of money for a good cause whilst of course doing 2 or 3 other things at th same time,I find concentrating very difficult even to focus on a single job inthe house when I can get out the chair without sub doing other things or being distracted.

41days I know consider my problems are increasing outside gambling non related to this.it doesn't lower the stress though or clinical depression I feel I have had since childhood

Deanyboy wrote:

Too true! Same here, diagnosed as depressed many years ago, never took any medication because I didn't believe I was depressed or any medication would help...gambling made me the way I was...NO MORE!!!! I feel possitive about every aspect of life now I'm gambling free, even after such a short while...and that includes the lottery, it may only be a £1, but you still have the anticipation of checking the numbers after every draw, which feeds the demon! It's false hope that destroys you! I've wiped every aspect of 'chance' or 'luck' from my life, and smile about it!

Did you take medication mate?

The docs prescribed me diclofenac, tramadol, amitriptaline, noratriptaline, they wanted to give me other stuff but found nothing worked so didn't bother, like I said, I just knew my issues were depression bought on by gambling, I had a few sessions with a phscologist, I thought he was madder than me! Idiot!!! Pills won't help me, they never will....I know what's up, I've dealt with it, well dealing with it, but honesty with myself and those I love and trusted, was a big step forward...I thought my wife would leave me for sure this time after ta £6000 loss in a night, she'd heard it all before and said she'd had enough...in the end it's up to you to deal with it the best way that only you feel is the best way...but you have to take that leap and just do it!!!!! No excuses, no pills, no lies....accept it, deal with it and laugh at it!!!!!!

Deanyboy wrote:

The docs prescribed me diclofenac, tramadol, amitriptaline, noratriptaline, they wanted to give me other stuff but found nothing worked so didn't bother, like I said, I just knew my issues were depression bought on by gambling, I had a few sessions with a phscologist, I thought he was madder than me! Idiot!!! Pills won't help me, they never will....I know what's up, I've dealt with it, well dealing with it, but honesty with myself and those I love and trusted, was a big step forward...I thought my wife would leave me for sure this time after ta £6000 loss in a night, she'd heard it all before and said she'd had enough...in the end it's up to you to deal with it the best way that only you feel is the best way...but you have to take that leap and just do it!!!!! No excuses, no pills, no lies....accept it, deal with it and laugh at it!!!!!!

i suppose what makes move worse I have lost the money late in my life with no real opportunity of making it up.and sadly depression is increasing due to non gambling related items.i still walk past slot ties and the raving pages.appreciate your comments.

Whatever professional help you seek or take, they'll all tell you, you have to be honest, that clears the way ahead for a fresh start!

Deanyboy wrote:

Whatever professional help you seek or take, they'll all tell you, you have to be honest, that clears the way ahead for a fresh start!

but would you risk the life of your wife ......like I say she is on loads of tablets has high Bp and recent family problems not related to my gambling or me is putting more pressure on her and for that matter me.gambling with money is not good but gambling with life is criminal.She is older than me as well

Will phone doc soon really deepening depression......I tnink maybe I am the wrong site

It would be very easy to say gambling is my only problem.....its not

And it's probably the least apart from ruminating and fallout from previous losses