After years of trying to stop, in money problems out of money problems. I think now the game is up. I have changed so much as a person. I am a compulsive gambler and don’t know when to stop. Payday loans out to cover loses you name it. I have the best wife ever and I will lose here if I don’t stop I know that. Back to reading and chilling out, instead of chasing my life away. If I don’t stop I am going to make myself ill. I have tried everything. All blocks are in place. Day 1 tomorrow and to a more relaxed and better future. All support will be welcomed as the next few days will be hard coming to terms with another relapse.
You know the drill Ally and you know it's the start of a long road, but well done for deciding to get your head down and get on with it. Keep popping on here over the next few days and give them a call if you feel that you need to speak with someone non judgmental who can give you a reminder why you came here in the first place.
One day at a time for now and don't beat yourself up (What's that going to achieve?). Get a good book (I've been using audiobooks and listening whilst walking, gardening, training etc.) and keep yourself busy. Relax. Start to enjoy the freedom you're creating for yourself by not gambling. All the best mate.
Good luck with it.
it is hard, the days seem long, the weekends longer, relax forget the money or try to, it’s gone.deal with what’s ahead.....the biggest battle I have ever faced is ahead of me, I’ve not gambled for 91 days straight but by god I’ve been tempted, I always will.
you are never ever cured but remember what brought you here, I’ve just come back in from a walk and on that walk i talk to myself...thing like this...
” you can do this”
”remember that last £40 losing bet, how it hurt”
” biggest fight kid, come on”
The day I lose this will kill me, I’ve promised so much to myself I am trying desperately hard to get through this, it doesn’t get easier for me, just another day and that’s how you need to do this ..ONE DAY AT A TIME.
i hope like me you can keep at it, it’s a long road back for me but it’s last chance saloon time, grab it.
Thanks bdog and holycrosser for your kind words. I have been here before. It’s hard but we all know gambling is not fun. It’s a demon that people can’t let go. I have lost a lot got it back and blown it all again what’s that a lot about i ask. You never really realise how much you gambled till you stop and realise all the time you have on your hands. It’s not how much you lose it’s that first bet that’s the problem. The feeling at the loses is to hard to take now. Time to dust myself down and lick my wounds. Pay back the money that’s put me in this mess. Watching sport is so chilled without money on it. Money on it and it’s like it’s all that matters.
I can watch sport without an urge.not everyone can do that .I know my trigger, unexpected bills and boredom.
When in full gambling mood I cant watch it without a urge generally.
A settled life is my key
Holycrosser, that’s again for your kind words. I find it more relaxing without a bet on sport. On day 2. Stay focused and keeping busy with work. Never in my life did I think I would be in this position. Gambling started as fun and you could win a few pound. To can’t even watch a race cause it means so much. Winning money and getting in front by a good amount, to blowing all away after one bad bet. Walking away is the key to gambling and a compulsive gambler can never walk away. Looking forward to another gamble free day. Stay focused folks.
Day 5 GF. It’s payday and a weird feeling not heading to the bookies. I am actually scared to have a bet. When I have given up before I was never scared. I can only say it’s a good thing. It’s so good to watch sport and not be stressed out my nut wanting my bet to come up. Fortunately I don’t need to gamble for money. So the question I can’t understand is why do I do this. Here is do another day GF.
Day 5 nearly over. Been a real bad day with loads of urges. Friday is payday and all the good sport starts on a Friday for the weekend. Stayed strong and stayed gamble free. The urges are nothing compared to the pain of my gambling career that’s caused me heart break and pain. Onto day 6 GF
Hi,
Just think of the first bet or spin as the worst as if you win, you go again, and if you lose you go again.....the only winning is beating the urge, everything else just result in the same downward spiral
You can do this
Hi hullbo.
Thanks for your words of advice and your so right. On day 6 GF. Don’t feel the same urges as yesterday. I know it’s not going to be easy with all the urges. It’s how you deal with the urges and keep busy. Stay strong everyone and stay GF.
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