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You can do this sha...make that call to gamcare today...you have your hands full with your family but if you can get to the counselling that gamcare will give you I think you will be amazed how it can help...no magic cure...but it is helping me understand...think...and has made me mentally stronger...one day at a time....and we girlies on here can all walk this journey together. ...have a great day...don't beat yourself up...be proud to start again xxx

Hi Sha, well done in realising you need help. You have come to the right place for advice and support from people who are battling the same demons as yourself.

You need to put barriers in place - time, money, location - the triangle you will hear many members talk about. If you remove one you cannot gamble. Phone Gamcare, arrange counselling and if you are struggling with debt you can contact organisations such as StepChange (which does not charge a fee) and they can get your finances sorted out.

You mention about your depression, anxiety and previous abusive relationship - it would be a good idea to speak to your GP and they may be able to arrange some extra therapies for you. Here's a link which has information and web addresses which deal with depression and other problems, you may find something which may find helpful. Click here

Take care and thank you so much for taking time out to post on my diary, that was so kind of you xx

Hey sha...you ok love...xx

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Oh sha. ..first of all ...here's a big hug (((( ))))...I'm sorry your feeling so very low....honestly love if you could just ring gamcare it would help you so much....you are in the thick of it sweetheart...have you a mate you could go see....don't hate yourself love...it's the addiction...you are not a bad person...just in a bad place....wipe those tears...and try to make that call ...we are all here for you xx

Hi Sha , Look I'm gonna say those words I said to you the other day " Nothing changes until you change it ", a bit of tough love that your'e prob not going to like darling , it really is going to be the same thing every day unless you start making a plan to change . If your still gambling online , thats telling me straight away that you haven't shut the door to gambling , youv'e got access to a computer or smartphone that should have blocks in place to stop you getting on to these sites so why aren't they there ? . People here are giving you good advice and your not putting anything in place love ! , ring gamcare and organise some counciling , its one phonecall that could change your life and as for your doctors , yeah sure , we all struggle to get appointments but that really doesn't stop you making one for next week or in a fortnight , in fact whenever you can be seen ?.

I spoke to you about your mum the other night and mirrored my own experiences of losing people close to me but truthfully you have to let go , your mum wouldn't want you to be feeling this way would she , she'd want you to be happy and enjoying life , we have our great and loving memories of those we lose and we hold them forever inside our hearts and minds but your life is now and it's for living darling and thats what you need to do .

If your relationship with your partner is that bad that it's causing you so much heartache why are yiou still in it , I know it's not my place to judge but seriously you need to kick his unsupporting , worthless ar.se right out ! , we all use gambling to escape life but you need to sort out whats causing you to run into its waiting arms ?.

I'm sorry for sounding so harsh but you can't keep doing this day in day out , you need to think about yourself and your kids , if you just make one decision today, then either phone Gamcare or make that doctors appointment and get your life back on track !.

Best wishes Honey !

Great advice Alan...please read...and re read sha. ..and set your self one posative thing to do each day....you asked me how I got to this day sha without gambling. ...well it was like Alan said....I got things in place so i can't gamble. ...then followed up with all the other things to get me set up for my recovery...you can do it sha. ...but you have to want to xxx

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Hi honey , look your partner blaming you for everything is just a big cop out as far as I'm concerned , blaming you for being a CG ? Well you're not exactly hiding that on here are you , to be honest if he's the sort of person that's just gonna chuck everything back at you instead of supporting you then he's really not worth having around . I don't think I'm in a position to comment on the rights and wrongs about your kids as that's something only you can deal with and I'm sure you'll do what's needed . So instead of going to bed and having a sleeping pill , coz that's really not going to solve anything is it ? Make that call , nothing stopping you is there , or what about the Samaritans , it's just people there for s chat about life and nothing more , it just sometimes you need to unload and get things off your chest and it really sounds like you could do with that at the mo ? It's just one phone call and the only thing stopping you , is you !! . And for what its worth I think you've so done the right thing regarding your partner , so a big well done on taking that first step Hun ! Now what about a phone call or making that appointment with the doctor you keep putting off ?

Sha, it's time to start looking out for you so that you can be the mum to your kids that your lovely mum was to you! It's scary to think about letting something go that has been such a huge part of your life but gambling & your partner hurt you so much that you have no choice! You may not be able to get an immediate appointment with your own GP but they won't be booked up forever so make the call! Sounds to me like you have an awful lot of grief bottled up inside that you are trying to shove back down! You are scared & I get that but you really do need to find a less painful way to manage it because it is destroying you!

Come on, deep breath & take one giant leap forwards now, pick up the phone! You can do it & you can help your life feel better than it does right now - ODAAT

Hello Sha

You're going through such a tough time at the moment and it sounds like you have been for a long time. It's taken such strength for you to leave your partner and also to join the forum here and share what you're going through. You said you thought about calling our helpline but 'bottled out'. Don't worry, sometimes people make several attempts before they feel able to talk. You can phone up just to chat through your options, we won't pressure you to commit to anything you're not ready for or don't feel right about.

Take care Sha and keep posting.

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Hi sha...just checking your ok love....have you made that call xxx

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Sha. ....are you ok love x