My 3rd chance and last chance - Need Advice

hey dude I've just signed up to this myself and your post was first one I read. I've only stopped myself for about 3 weeks now which is a long time for me not to gamble seeing I did it every chsmce I could. I'm 33 now and have had this addiction since I was 19. I did stop for 2 years when I was around 23 but in the end I wasn't ready to quit. It doesn't matter if you've relapsed twice or twenty times you can't give up and let it win. I nearly went to place a bet this morning myself my Mrs is out my baby has fell asleep and in sitting there missing the buzz but deep down its not a buzz its a nightmare. My partner knows everything and I let her check my bank whenever she feels like it because it will be there on my statement if I have. I mean I could go inside the bookies but if your hiding it from someone it's hard to do that if your actually in the bookies rather than online. Just stay positive and you need to mean it if you going to beat this because the biggest enemy is your own brain it will try and trick you into thinking you need to do it even if you want to bet 50 and say whatever happens ill stop and take winnings but thzt never happens, always money going back in to the rich idiots pockets. What drives me forward is my Mrs and kids because I know I'm on my last chance regarding the gambling as I cannot hide my behaviour when I'm gambling even if you think you are. The hearing of your own heartbeat when your about to win and then boom you lose that's worst feeling ever. 

Hi Mate 

I totally resonated with everything you said here. And let me tell you from personal experience you should tell your wife before she finds out.

I earn a significant amount of money and thought I could hide my gambling problem. How wrong I was after relapsing a few times I like you gave myself one more time however my wife found out and thats when S**t hit the fan.

She kicked me out and that was the point I realised what I had done to not only myself but to her also. The constant lies I told to either get money or alone time so I could gamble.

I am now getting professional help and I have now been gambling free for 2 weeks. I hope to be able to repair the damage I have done to my marriage.

So my advice is tell her everything its not worth losing everything you cherish.

Hi, unfortunately, until you are completely transparent, you’re likely to keep on relapsing? The addiction wants you to keep secrets and tell lies. Your wife will find out one day and it will be a lot worse than if you just talk to her. My husband found out and it was a really tough time, but he stood by me and supported me. On Saturday I’ll be 2 years gamble free.

Be kind to yourself, this is a very nasty illness you’re battling. Don’t do it alone.

Claire x

First off all well done for understanding u have a problem its not an easy addiction when i first realised i had a problem back in 2011 i did all the usual blocks however i have had 100s of relapses on the way for various reason i managed days weeks months then relapsed again however i do understand how and why 99% of those relapses occured which actually made it even more difficult in the long run has i had no family support nobody understood it as an addiction sense after battling this addiction i managed to stay clean for 3 whole years until i made a stupid decision to try gambling once again this was my biggest mistake off my life i also learnt from this mistake i simply cannot place a bet the grip it had on me since that relapse i have had many more until my last relapse which was just over 2 years ago since this time frame my life has changed for the better i understand a relapse can still happen has their no cure however i can minimize the risk factors by understanding i am the problem coming on here keep my mind fresh im not cured but i can keep the bet free days adding up