Absolutely love this film and the sequel didn't disappoint either.Â
Accountability
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Not sure what made me think of this but I went to bed last night and really wanted to write a topic today about this subject and remind myself of my own. Like with the topics I have written, it's only from my own point of view and I write them as a reminder to myself and I'm keeping them for future reading when I need to.Â
I can honestly say that when I came into recovery, knowing nothing, wise people in the community were talking about accountability. I guess in terms of my recovery process, blocks came first and then perhaps accountability came second. I had already decided to place one last bet on 19th November 2025 at 1134am which was on myself. That's one bet I never wanted or could afford to lose. When people talked about accountability I instantly thought, tick, got that, I am accountable to myself so got that in place. But how could I trust myself. All those plans over the years I promised myself and let myself down. So I spoke to my partner and we worked out a plan. Now I am not suggesting this works for everyone and we have a specific set of circumstances so i couldn't hand over complete control and not have any cash. So we agreed that she would know how much cash i have each week in my pocket. I get receipts and keep a log of everything I spend whether in cash or using my bank card. I gave her the password to my banking app so she can login whenever she likes and I regularly leave my phone lying around. I soon came to realise that this gave her peace of mind as well so I pushed open accountability and every time I see my mother I show her my app so she can see it's "clean" and rebuilds trust. As part of accountability, if I am paid any money I tell my partner, mother and mother in law immediately. I don't care if that sounds like a child when I am 56, it doesn't bother me.
I thought that was accountability done for me and I didn't feel pressurised by it. Over the last six months I've realised it's become more than that. Joining GA I have made a huge amount of friends and I feel accountability to them to stay gamble free. I've realised I have accountability to the virtual friends I have made on Gamcare and Evive communities giving me support. Again, it doesn't stress me out, it gives me a good feeling. I'm not saying that doesn't mean I can't relapse but it does mean I would tell everyone and get back on the road again.
Now I feel that I have accountability to anyone who knows I am a compulsive gambler which is fine to me and is part of the reason I am open and tell everyone.Â
Like I stated earlier, this is only my viewpoint of my own accountability but I would love to hear what accountability means to you and any challenges you have found from it. Â
accountability also means apologising to the people who where lied too and deceived and put in a whole lot of sleepless nights due to basic greed for money  .we created this imaginary arrogant successful persona living a lie whist creating chaos in there life.they knew nothing about they are the innocent party not us. we created this monster not them. some people think its brave or heroic its not too be honest its just righting the wrongs done by us through life choices nobody forced us to gamble we chose to do it no one else.i.personally dont buy into the reasoning (oh I was allowed to put 10 pence on the national or play 1 pence a game on a slot machine )so its my parents fault that is just a nonesense excuse.the only way is to put every block in place using gamban moses sense and block on bank cards for gambling sites and determination to keep your promise to never go down the gambling path again to yourself family and friends it might sound harsh but its true.
Hi G
I respect your thoughts and yes honesty and truth is another subject. I do take full account for my actions over 44 years and I don't have gambling parents or surrounded by any addiction. Yes I took started as a harmless form of entertainment but this is a mental illness for me. As time went on I lost all morals and that wasn't through choice. I lied and more, much more. I will never understand why but for me it was about money or greed. As I said, I respect your view and yes I have more blocks in place than Lego but that only stopped me gambling. I gave protection to others so they knew I wasn't gambling through accountability and I had to make sure I never wanted to gamble again. That's what I do everyday to create a life worth living where there is no room, want or need to escape to gambling.Â
Only my view and I'm just a beginner in recovery but its all I can do. I've made my apologies, now it's action and putting that new life in placeÂ
well thats a good start Stuart but it will have to be a life long commitment not days months hours or minutes and I hope you appreciate and tell your wife family and friends how grateful you are they stuck by you in the darkest hours they are the real heroes in all this they could have walked away but didnt do so gods blessings to them
I will never gamble again. As for them staying with me, that's for a judge to say at some point whether I can stay with them .Â
@g3y6a5jbds i totally agree with u mate however their a big but their that 1% where addiction so severe similar to like someone suffering from psychosis their been a few reports done on this subject i have been in recovery since 2010 so yes while everything u have said applies to me and the majoirty others Stuart case is little differentÂ
really love this film....it portrays a person who like me finds it difficult to adhere to social society and finds life challenging as a result....but he lives a very fullfilling life kinds like forrest gump film..... if anyone not seen i reccomend it
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