Is he manipulating me or should I think v carefully about my own behaviour?

Hi CW,

I remember you posting on a third party thread to me.....you didn't take that into account.

As for reporting merc she merely pointed out that all CG's are not the same. You have upset many people by your words that we are all immature and selfish. I am certainly not immature being that I am in a managerial position for an international company. It is the addiction that controls us and makes us the way we are. However now being 80 days gf I have used some of the advice of this forum, I no longer lie and I certainly won't be told that I am immature.

Hi cw i dont really care you have reported my comments as abusive i will just show them your comments on my page when i first joined gamcare for support not to be lectured by somone who knows nothing about me or my circumstances and like tilly said i was only saying that not all compulsive gamblers are immature or selfish like you implied. You cant put all cg's in one size fits all thats very unfair as people are individuals not robots.

CW Have to laugh at some of your comments. We are all here for help. I don't think you truly understand how low people are that come here, some even suicidal. Believe me, some of your advice and the way you speak would not help them!! Not all CG's are the same. We cannot all be tarred with the same brush as your husband. Learn to be a little more understanding...please.

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Hi CW,

I just wanted to say that you have always responded to me and for that I'm grateful. I don't post much now as somehow I don't feel qualified as I'm no longer living with the CG in my life but believe me it's still very painful and lonely.

I wish you well.

Hi CW

Wishing you a nice day! 🙂

Cathy

Thanks, Cathy.

Actually things are starting to show signs of possibly improving - actually, there has been quite a big improvement in attitude recently....but I'm still v cautious.

Hope things are going as well as they can for you.

CW

Hi, V,

If it's working, stick with it, if not, then think what you need to change and change it? Now what could possibly be more simple?

Look after yourself, best wishes.

CW

CW, Thanks for that post, it meant alot and snapped me out of a present head funk and gave me a gentle kick up the ar.se. As you would of no doubt seen and quite possibly been bemused by all of the flack flying round these diarys of late. With lots of heads and mine included needs bashing together.

For you and HL, may have, in some way, been a bit more of an education in understanding the varying degree's of denial in us addicts. It has been for me and also reinforces to me, in keep working on the process of recovery......... An ongoing process at that.

Respect for both you and HL, in continuing with your unflinching support and not jumping on the band wagon of ' the best form of defence, is attack '.

All the best to the both of you.

Hi CW , I just wanted to mention that I'd left a reply to your post on one of your other threads on the f and f site , apologies if that wasn't the one your on ! Alan

Happy Easter CW. The only and main wish is peace to your heart and soul. You truly deserve it.

Look after yourself..you matter the most

S x

Happy Easter to all who post and contribute. Keep the peace is harder than creating arguments. I'd rather the former than the latter. Hugs to all. Tri x

Thank you for your post on my diary.

Us men are always in bother - its just the depth that varies!!!!

Best wishes

Hi CW , I did leave a post on my diary for you last night but forgot to answer your question of why the forum instead of RL ? .

I've always been a bit old school regarding dealing with problems in life and am of the thinking that I would rather try and sort out problems , especially those that I've created myself , I've had great support on here and from my wonderfull family , I also feel that the advice on here is great and has served me well , I've taken things on board from accross the forum and also dismissed things that I felt were no use to me , a tailor made package if yiou like ?.

I'm not shut off from the fact that this may not work so I would never say never to alternatives , however as far as GA is concerned I would really find attending meetings unworkable because of my hours of work , no excuses , it's just the way it is unfortunately .

Thank you for your input and as always Best wishes ..........Alan

Good morning CW,

Thank you for the post and no, you don't sound sarcastic at all. In fact you're one of my favourites on here with your straight to the point approach ☺..no need comfort blankets here, we are all grown up and capable of out own decisions. I know i don't follow my own advice, but giving advice for others and hoping they will take them on board is one of my own battles..even if one person follows them...my job is done.
I am addicted to gambling..spinning reels, bonuses etc. That's the reality, once i start - i cannot stop.
Really want to give up recovery but that would mean not so good news in my life..don't know...going through GA room door is still not appealing..i guess I'm setting up myself for the failure once again.
Credit card safely with my friend, current card is in overdraft so i don't think i will be daft enough to get into more debt (?)..am self excluded from most of the sites, but ...there is no stopping CG if they really want to start this self destruction.

I don't take slips easily...it's deffo painful and the "f**k it all" comes to the front..it really does...i guess us CG struggle to see the bigger picture at those moments and just think about going bk to day 1 which is not very nice...the bigger picture is a lot better - i don't gamble daily, i have savings, job, ....health.
...it takes one "f**k it" moment to turn this table around..something to think about huh...

Hope you're well & all is ticking along nicely in the household. Also hope your daughter is feeling better and are not too stressed out with school.

Look after yourself and put yourself first...you matter the most.

Hey CW,

Thank you..i hope you will stick around to see me starting to progress in this journey...it will happen...the question of time remains ☺

Look after yourself and have a good day