Need support - stuck in a family of problem gamblers

I am a South African mother with two children who has recently immigrated to Kent. My husband is an addict although he won't admit to it. Throughout our marraige he has been a problem gambler and a semi-functioning alcoholic, not to mention some drug use.

I have always been against the gambling. I am an alient in my current family as the entire family "enjoys" gambling. If I try speak up I am squashed down by the family. It has been going on for years. Back home they ran a company together and gambled with company money. Although not the only reason they lost the company and we came here for a "fresh start". We have had hell for the last 4 years with dribs and drabs of money coming in as our worlds fell apart. I have come here feeling like I have gone through a battle and its far from over.

I do not yet have a job and have not yet made friends. My mother lives over an hour away. His whole family came over as they jointly lost the business - mother & father - brother and family. I have been querying where all our money is going - his salary which we are living on whilst I find a job. I have found it harder than he to find a job but have interviews all week. He would fight and scream and shout and swear at me. Make me feel like I was losing my mind to dare question him. Would not allow me to see his bank account. He has been like this for years, I always knew he was lying and hiding things from me.

And finally the truth came out. A bank statement arrived at our home showing 350 pounds on a poker site and 400 more transferred to another account, more gambling I am sure. I confronted him, he did the usual screaming shouting swearing. He takes no blame. I for the first time in years, block him. Phone my mother and ask to spend a night. Phone my sister and mother in law. My sister in law had a brief moment of being supportive as she goes through similar but is less outspoken wanting to fit in. My mother in law is not only an enabler who has lent him the money for rent when he has blown it but often the instigator in the gambling. And said to me what do I expect when you desperate for money you will go do that. I asked to drop my kids and went to my mom alone.

I feel so completely alone, the whole family will rally around him. I will be painted as the crazy one who rocks the boat and causes drama. I have no friends and no other family close by. I want to leave but dont feel strong enough or have the financial backing I need yet. I dont know what to do.