Been with husband 20 years, two kids, house .
knew before we got together he liked a bit of a gamble but clearly didn’t know how much.Â
Just found out he is in so much debt. 40k but also blown savings. Luckily we don’t have joint accounts.Â
He is doing all the things I have asked of him and I have taken control of money. But I still can’t help but think this wasn’t the life I signed up to. I don’t like watching his every penny. I go from wanting to help him  and actually feeling sorry for him to being so mad about the money and what our life’s could have been like.Â
Hopefully there is a way out and he can pay off the debt but I know this doesn’t end there.Â
still feeling pretty numb by it all along with supporting his rock bottom mental health and him feeling sorry for himself.Â
does it get easierÂ
Hi
It does get easier but it is a mental illness. I'm so pleased to hear you are supporting him. Is he going to gamblers anonymous in person or online ? Has he joined this site ?
Can I also mention that there is a chatroom for friends and family of gambling harm on here and you can get support through the helpline as well
Stuart
@lp5vut869c  Thank you for responding.Â
He has been in touch with gamcare yes and is due to start sessions next week.Â
He has done everything I have asked in relation to finances and getting support for the addiction so I can’t fault him on that but still feel worried about it all. I’ve read about the risk of relapse and that’s a massive worry
Hi MK
How are you getting on now ? I've been routing that things work out for you both even though it's still early days
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