One day at a time.

Too right my friend. 88 days today and if I can get to my GA meeting on Tuesday one day at a time gamble free then I can celebrate 90 days. Not trying to look into the future but we both have three milestones coming up so have to work hard to get there - 90 days, 3 months then 100 days but you've done that before. I'm going to celebrate milestones like 111, 123 days etc good numbers with a small treat as a well done. Nothing lavish but something to keep me present. This site has been so much help for so many people, shame it's not more but the advertising doesn't help people get here.

Would love to talk to you on the 8pm chatroom if you have time. 

I have to watch out for the blind spots. Not direct gambling thoughts that come at me head on and are easier to dismiss (blocks in place, don't do that anymore and don't want to do that is my thought pattern) but it's blind spot thoughts with the addiction coming through the back door, wasteful with money thoughts or idle with time. I know these would lead back to the dark side so need to watch out for them. The addiction and complacency are best buddies.

Keep up the good work my friend 

Stuart

Thinking about it...... I think the blind spots are best described as taking the easy route. Playing a game on my phone and buying a bonus to get me through a tough level, putting off doing jobs around the house and doing nothing, buying something I really don't need or cancelling a walk because of the weather 

They aren't gambling but they are my old traits trying to pull me back into the old life, so quite frankly those thoughts can get lost as that's not me today 

Hi Kickstart.

Well done for continuing on your journey. Lots of people give up altogether after a relapse but you have done the right thing and continued on your g.f journey 👏👏.

I find it really useful not to dwell on my debt with Stepchange (originally around 43k some years ago and now around 27k remaining). I continue to use the mantra “as each month goes by, my debt is less than the month before and that’s that”! I then

just forget about it!

Wishing you all the best in your continued recovery.

Pink Lady 🩷🍎.

@j5a6meyr4z Thank you PinkLady. I always respect you or time to reply to me over the years with your support. (I changed my Username so you may not remember me) 

Thank you. 

@c17ort Awh thank you. What was your username before? Just so I can remember you!😆. If you would prefer not to say, I totally understand.

Take care.

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@j5a6meyr4z It was “King”

@lp5vut869c Unfortunately I won’t be able to join you at 8 tonight. 
I am away with work exhibiting at the NEC in Birmingham. 

Have a good week. 

@c17ort Hi, so great to read your GF days, amazing. 
How did you get on with StepChange in the end? Did you choose that route or decided not to? 

Claire x

@cpparch Hi Claire, thank you for reaching out to me again. It really is appreciated. 
Stepchange were fantastic but I want to try and clear this debt as soon as possible. The DMP they offered would have added 8 years on to the time frame and I think for me personally I couldn’t bare that. I want this over with as quick as I can, what ever spare money I have I am putting towards my debts. 
In 2 months time my debt will be under 40k

Ahh that’s brilliant. You’ve got to do what’s best for you. Our DMP’s are going on 12 years I think 😢 but it was our only option really. Hopefully circumstances will change in the future and we’ll get them paid off quicker. 
Just think how great it’s going to feel the debt coming down and you would have done that all by yourself! A thing to be proud of 😊

@cpparch Thank you so much for your kind words. It means so much. 

Our gambling debts and situations are all different and you are doing what’s right for you both and in time you will reach your goal. 

Carry on with the good work. 

@c17ort Awh Hi again King 😃

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Hi kickstart

Massive well done for getting to 84 days, it's so good to read everyone's story of success because it takes so much determination to get to that stage in your recovery. I've had several years of trying to give up but then relapse just to think I'd be okay but I'm not, the limits I put in place went out the window, then I asked for help at gamcare and had several therapists but its the chatroom and the Reframe coaching that's inspired me to be motivated to do this mission after 30 years of utter miserable losses. I put all barriers in place so that there's no temptation n re-wiring my brain now to not gamble, I've had enough of the feeling down and distraught and feel so much happier with where I am now. Onwards n upwards. And one day at a time. We gotta keep going n reward ourselves for each goal we make. Mines early days but keeping a journal to remind myself of how terrible I used to feel after losing hundreds of pounds so that I can refer back to if I ever get the desire. Atm I feel really positive and want to achieve limitless amount of days where I never go back to being that person I was coz I hated everything about how it controlled  me. Keep going You got this 😊

Jennyj

Hi Mate

Is it 100 days tomorrow mate !!!!!

Stuart