The past year or so has been the worst period of my life, I've lost tens of thousands and I'm now up to my eyeballs in debt. I never expected to be in this position at 30 years old when I should have a happy and content life with a wonderfully supportive family and incredible partner, instead I'm losing the zest for life due to me not being able to face up to my past mistakes and trying to escape via gambling, drinking and C*****e. I feel the biggest obstacle is for me to let go of the past and try to admit my faults and move on but I am wrecked with guilt 24/7, how do we let go of our pain?
Hi,
Fellow compulsive gambler here so I know your pain, similar age to so again I empathise when you remark on your life and how it should be better by now.
I'm the same, recently lost my house (June 2017) due to gambling and starting from the bottom up!
With regards to pain, it's difficult to cope with but it does ease. I have thrown myself in to sorting my debts with a DMP with StepChange! Best thing I did to show myself and family I was commited to resolving my mistakes and its been great for me as I needed to regain some control that gambling stole from me.
I started my recover journey on 16th august this year but as you will see from my GF day count o have relapsed in that time but I have come back stronger!!
Wish you well!
Hi there and welcome to the forum .
I don't think it's as easy as just letting go of our pain or everything we've done but that being said you do have to draw a line in order to move forward with a different life .
I've many regrets over my actions towards the people I was supposedly refering to as my " loved ones " but who treats people you love like we do eh ?
There's a good saying on here " It's ok to look back but just don't stare " which I feel is kinda right but we do need to explore where we went wrong in order for it not to happen again so maybe look into a bit of councilling to begin with in order to identify yoiur trigger's ?
I think the hardest part for me was letting go of the losses if I'm honest , it was the one thing that kept dragging me back to gambling , as a Compulsive Gambler I couldn't ( like most of us) bere to lose and just walk away so the whole " Wanting to get revenge " for the money I lost would alway's talk me back into the cycle of destruction we all know too well but as soon as I let go of the money and for the first time in my life allowed gambling to win and admit it had me beat , well .......... I've not gambled for 2 yrs so it must have hit a chord ? .
Thing's will get better my friend but you do have to move on and start putting some work in to make changes possible and go for life you and your family deserve :)) .
All the best for now :))
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