Hi there - have just decided to join tonight after wasting yet more money that I havent got - online gambling. I need to stop and I dont think I can do it alone. I never really thought of myself as having a gambling problem but it must be as I cant seem to stop myself. My partner is a compulsive gambler and over the years I started to gamble too. This is very stupid of myself as the amount of arguements we had over his gambling - trouble we have got in to (huge debts) no having money for bills or food. Yet I got sucked into it too. I hated him for doing it to us and then I joined him. I really dont understand myself! Anyway I guess this is the first step to realising I do have a problem. Its not just him that needs help I do too. I cant expect him to stop when I am doing it too now. Oh and I am also 6 months pregnant!!!! I hope to open up more over time but am too shy and ashamed to do so at the moment. I hope to start a recovery diary which may or may not help. Fingers crossed. Good luck everyone.
Hello want2stop,
I am wishing you success in trying to stop gambling and a healthy pregnancy thru delivery. I am hoping your partner has the same determination to stop, but if not, please do not let that deter you from quitting gambling. You will make it! I have faith in you.
Best wishes
AM
Pure_Justice wrote:
Hello want2stop,
I am wishing you success in trying to stop gambling and a healthy pregnancy thru delivery. I am hoping your partner has the same determination to stop, but if not, please do not let that deter you from quitting gambling. You will make it! I have faith in you.
Best wishes
AM
Thank you fro your kind words and support. Not sure how my partner is going to do. He doesnt know i have joined this site but i am hoping it will help me 🙂
Hello wants2stop, if your partner is also a compulsive gambler then perhaps this will make it easier for him to understand. I confessed to my partner last week; it wasn't the gambling but the associated secrets and lies that hurt her most. After a tough weekend we are now moving forward together and I maintain that talking is the first positive step, or at least it was for me. First time around I went 8 years keeping it a secret and ended up on anti-anxiety pills before saying anything. It won't be easy but talk to him would be my advice. Good luck, you can do this....
Thanks and good luck to you too 🙂
Wants2stop Hi,
You need to get measures in place to block gambling sites. K9 is free get another family member to set the password and not let you know it. Both of you seek counselling from Gamcare or if you can attend GA meetings.
Give another family member other than your partner control of your finances.
Don't wreck your future.
Take action.
Others may offer good advice on here as well.
I'm on day 18 of being gambling free and it feels good.
Take care
Hello wants2stop... Congratulations for coming here & congratulations on the pregnancy!
You will soon get the feel of the thread & hopefully become less & less ashamed to open up as you see what crazy stuff 'we' have been up to! I too became a compulsive gambler in the wake of someone else but it took me an awful lot longer to see that I needed help so I applaud you recognising the signs so quickly! There is someone else on here who has followed a partner down this road & I was thinking it might help you to read that diary but I can't for the life of me remember who it is 🙁 I will drop back if I can figure it out. Sadly you cannot make your partner want recovery (I have really tried) but you can & must look after you (& bump) One Day At A Time?! Figure out what you need to do to break that Time-Money-Location triangle as taking one away will prevent you gambling & get to work @ making it happen!
None of us understands why we got sucked in by this vile addiction so don't think you are alone in that.
Welcome to recovery! Be strong - ODAAT
Great comments Mrstop and ODAAT - thanks for the support 🙂
Well I am back and its day 2 - one day at a time right? xxx
wants2stop wrote:
Great comments Mrstop and ODAAT - thanks for the support 🙂
Well I am back and its day 2 - one day at a time right? xxx
Yes, one day at a time. One hour or one minute if the moment warrents it. Remember, most urges will pass within 3 minutes and then subside. Fight for those 3 minutes at a time if need be.
Yes, one day at a time. One hour or one minute if the moment warrents it. Remember, most urges will pass within 3 minutes and then subside. Fight for those 3 minutes at a time if need be.
Excellent advice ... I am on Day 4 too so its working 🙂
Well done wants2stop, even a day for a complusive gambler is an achievement.
Just remember urges can and will happen at anytime and it's important to keep that resolve and your guard up.
You'll soon be at a week and then 2 weeks and a month etc and things do get easier and the urges become less and less
Thanks steve 🙂
On day 6 now so nearly a week done - woo hoo !
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