Hi im Amanda new here

Hi Amanda, you have come to the right place & being on benefits, you absolutely must nip this in the bud now. That money you won in September was not yours, maybe consider it as a loan that the addiction gives out to lure you in (the first few bags of free drugs from a dealer)! Gambling does not make people rich, it produces sad, lonely, manipulative people who end up here relying on support from strangers to feel normal again. I don't gamble online so not the best person to advise you but a phonecall to Gamcare would, I'm sure be helpful to you! I guess your partner knows you gamble, as you told him about the £600? I know you say he would be mad but you may need to come clean that it is no longer a bit of fun anymore! The more support you have, the easier it will be to stay gamble free - ODAAT

Thanks again for all your replies, my partner doesnt seem to mind when ive had wins!!!! but i ask him when ive won DONT LET ME PUT IT BACK but he never say anything? then when hes working i just put it back, im wondering if he thinks its a kind of income?? When i spent the 20,000 he was disapointed but not angry. Just to make things a bit more clearer we arnt on benfits anymore, it was when we were both doing part time jobs and having to claim, im no longer working and hes working full time, so we were lucky enough to be out of that, the benfits put us in a terrible muddle ( through no fault of our own) i think thats what panic me into trying to get money 🙁

Hi Amanda,

You need new solutions, yours do not work. Try GA, try counselling just know that gambling is not the answer but that there are answers & solutions out there for you. Go look for them

Hi Ya, sorry for the assumption, I understand now...I know how frustrating this system can be! I was running my Uncle's finances last year when the Council decreed he was not well enough to stay in his own home anymore. I told the DWP by phone & letter & about 3 months later got a nasty letter from them demanding over £600 because 'we' hadn't declared a change of circumstance. It wouldn't have been a problem but they were paying his money into my Mother's account 🙁 & it was going as fast as they paid it in! 5 attempts by me warning them she was using it for other means only prompted an interview with her (where she asked them to pay it to me) & only stopped when I threatened I would go to the police. The Council who told us we would need to sell his home, a year down the line still have not bothered doing their accounts & over 2 months after he passed, I have no idea how many thousands they will be demanding...Grrr! I know for 'normal' people stuff like this may be no big deal but for a CG it can get us in a right pickle. These Government agencies should be quality assured or something & when they can't get it right, should be responsible for the losses (except of course when it is the other way & they haven't paid out enough)!

On the subject of your Husband

1) How can he stop you if you put it all back when he is out but

2) He may not know how to help, I reached out to my partner whilst in the grip of the urges before I got to Day 1 & he never said the right thing. So I went gambling! Not sure there was a right thing to say that would have stopped me but it allowed me to blame someone else instead of myself!

He could look after your finances for you & leave you 'pocket money' it's humiliating but was necessary for me! Gambling may seem like a quick fix but it stops being about the winnings & then becomes a game of chase throwing good money after bad until we hit rock bottom. Don't be me, doing it for more years than I can remember. Get the help to stop this now & claim back your sanity, you have to stay away from the sites - ODAAT

im new on here im gambleing on sports but now it rouete all on my laptop i need help

The big win is what sets most people off , having spent years winning small amounts when I won £4k twice I was over the moon , blew a lot of it and saved a bit.

The road to recovery begins.

Hi all back again, still gambling all my money away cant seem to get of them 🙁 would spend all day on them if i could, ive got so used to not having any money in bank and if i take money out of bank only go and put it back in to go online. I know ishould self exclude myself, but cant bring myself to do that yet sad i know, if i win only put it back.

You don't sound happy Amanda....you can change things if you want to, there is a calmer life waiting for you...there is support here for you when you are ready. Take care.

It sounds as if you aren't ready to quit. Until you are you won't succeed.

Gambling isn't only a money waster, but it's a time waster also.

Perhaps you need to look to fill those times you gamble with something else.

Putting monies into accounts that you need to give notice to withdraw from, is also a good way of putting money away, you can't easily touch.

As Rhoda says, when you are finally ready to quit, there is plenty of support around here.