Hi everyone,
I've tried to stop several times without sucess and I'm currently at my wits end as I can't keep going on like this, I've had enough. I just want to have a normal life.
Once again I've used my mam's credit cards without her knowledge, once again I have to break her heart. I've been on the sick from work since August but not told anyone, I've been pretending to go to work everyday and I don't know why. I just feel so low, I feel like every part of my life is a lie, I don't know how to be a good honest person.
Welcome...I recommend giving the helpline a ring love...better to talk one to one and they've heard it all before so won't be shocked. .
You're heading down a very slippery slope love...
Borrowing mums card...is fraud..
And if you've been pretending to work since August. ...only time before that comes out as well..
Having pointed out both those things....which I'm sure you're totally aware of....nothing is unsortable. ...but the changes have to come from you love...
You've come here....so that's a darn good start....now make that call....x
Hi Jolene,
Welcome to the Forum!
You say that you find it very hard to stop gambling and that you want to make changes. As Loxxie said, it might be a good step for you to give us a call on the Helpline on 0808 80 20 133 or contact the Netline http://www.gamcare.org.uk/support-and-counselling/frontline-services/netline
Both services are open from 8am to midnight every day and you can talk to an advisor one to one. An advisor would suggest to you practical strategies which can help you stop gambling and point you in the direction of other support which is available to you. That aside, an advisor will listen to you and your story and not judge you.
Talking to people here and to the Helpline can be a good way to start talking about your problem. You have hidden this for a long time and it must be a heavy burden to carry.
You can do this!
Kind wishes
Gabriele
Thanks for your replies.
I've arranged an assessment for some counselling through this site. I feel like I need to finally face some demons and find out why I gamble.
Does anyone have blocking software they can recommend for an android Phone?
Hi Jolene.
Secrets are no good for you and it is a born again moment you are searching for. There is ultimately no shame in admitting an addiction got to you. What you have done must be faced with openess and honesty. We know its not easy but the alternative is festering in secrets and the gambling addiction likes that.
We do recommend that you tell people close because you have to face up to the fact that gambling is not the answer to your circumstances and its not who you are.
You may have to hand your gadgets over or definately get someone else to set up blocking software so you dont know the password. Its also about living on an allowance as your mind heals.
When you learn more about the addiction you will realise it had new lows in store for you so you have to look at it like you are glad to be stopping sooner rather than later.
Gambling addicts are not inherently bad people and you can make this history.
Please get all the advice and help you can.
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
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