its time to open up and get life back

hi Steve, you can get an inexpensive gambling site blocker called ' TXNogam ' google it, for £20 it will block all gambling sites. Then even if you want to slip you can't. all the best

Hi Steve. I feel your pain and find myself in a similar situation. Like you, I wish I could go back to the day I first signed up to an online betting account.

I have cleared myself out a number of times and on each occasion have promised myself it would be the last. So far that hasn't happened. I am determined, like you, to stop for good.

What I realise is it's a physiological issue. Just saying to myself 'That's the last time' or 'I'm through with gambling' is not working. I have to completely change my thinking and attitude towards gambling and that will take help and support. Writing a regular diary entry will certainly help and reinforce our goal over time.

With this in mind it's important not to be too hard on yourself and to feel positive about making the first steps to genuine change. If you can go onto live a happy, gambling free life from now on, you can consider your last slip up a blessing.

All the best mate. Remember no matter how bad your feeling now, it will pass. All things pass.

Your friend

P

Hi

Thanks for your replys , not gambled in almost a week and have no intention of doing so , the weekend is normaly hard but I had no urge to gamble after realising my problem and coming here , now it's time to deal with the debt , looking at a budget I'm going to be totally skint for years paying it back , have been advised to take a dmp to pay it back but I'm going to try and tackle it myself on a super tight budget .

I did this to my little family and I will make it better ,gambling can never be an option for me ever again, I totally understand this and must live with it , my next step is to tell the present lady Steve , a hard move but a must if I am to move on.

I don't want to tell my farther and 2 sisters , my dad does not need the stress of worrying about me at his age , I'm so thankfull I found this place and can recommend chatting to the live advisors for any new people

Much love

Steve

Hello Steve,

Well done for joining here.

Even we have all different stories to tell so we are still all in the same boat or on the same way out of our misery.

You sound a very strong and loving person to me because you have realised that you have to change to be the rock for your little family to lean on and to put their trust in.

I'm sure you are on the right way and choosing the hard way out of your financial situation is not easy but the feeling when you get there is a really good one. I did it and I felt like a king when I was debt free.

I'm sure you will make it and my only advise to you is keep in touch mate

With a lot respect

Wolfgang

Hi all

Well tonight was a very very big step indeed ....tonight I told the present lady Steve about my gambling problem , I told her for how long , how much debt I've accumulated , how I did it , where all the debt was and the options to deal with it .

Like many most be she was angry (very) ,upset and scathing that I had done this to us ... After a while we talk about it and what options I have , all my cards are now with her and I will get £75 a week off my bank card ,£45 has to go on petrol so that's my lot for a few years ! I know what I am like and so I will probably take a second job or do a lot of overtime to pay the ( devils work ) down , maybe I think I'm lucky in the fact that , if I wanted to gamble I would need a card as its online slots that have done for me , I could walk into a bookies tomorrow and not even be tempted to place a bet ( crazy I know ) ...

So that's me out in the cold open air and gamble free for a week , I'm lucky I still have a little family and a lovely old house that I love to bash about and make a home , money is going to be a killer for years but my determination to make this right will not cease .

Why can't we all go back to day one knowing what we know !!!

Your welsh friend

Steve

Hi Steve I don't think that I'm on my own in telling you that you have all reason to be very proud of yourself and I think your present lady is to, even she is expectably angry at the moment.

Stay strong and keep up your good work and do look foreword to the day when you celebrate your debt free and gamble free life with your Lady 🙂

Your friend

Wolfgang

Hi Steve,

Well-done for coming clean, it takes a great deal of courage. I am pleased to hear that your partner is supportive and you are very fortunate to have your family together.

Unfortunately most of us have lost a great deal of money before coming to the realisation that we wish we never started. Steve remember the negative feelings, not to feel down but when you are tempted or given the opportunity to gamble again.

You seem to be tackling things head on, keep fighting everyday so this addiction will eventually become a distant memory. Keep us all updated on your progress.

Take care,

Amanda

Hi everyone

Well after last night talking to debt line today was when I told the rest of my family , I text my sister asking to meet so I could tell her as I did not want to tell my dad at his age , we text back and to with me explaining everything , she suggested I tell dad , and she did that for me

I went to see dad tonight ! ... During the day he had been seething and most upsetting for me he had been upset , we chatted and I told him in all the gory detail about how the slots had got me to this point in my life , he was not best pleased but being dad (or the orical) as I call him was all ears to my evil and my way of getting out of it all saying I had done the right thing coming here and going to debt line ,

Like many of u I was totally consumed by the addiction and the debt and chasing a big win to pay it ...utterly stupid , all my family say the same thing ...why did you not come to us before !

Any new member reading this ...please please tell the people you love how ever hard it may seam at the time , don't bury ur head in the sand like I did for years letting the evil deamon control you , seek help and drive yourself from within

I have been on here a week and look what I have done and what I'm doing , I will beat this , this WILL never beat me !!!!

Much love to you all

Steve

Hi Steve,

I'm glad to read how much your life without gambling is improving already after just a week.

Maybe you should start a topic in the recovery diary threat it's easier to follow your progress and to keep in touch.

You doing great mate keep it going

Your friend

Wolfgang