Robbed every month

Hey man, 

I know how u feel I do exactly the same it's an endless cycle hoping one month will be better and I'll get ahead. I've not reached out for help either but its good your talking about it that's the first step....

I often think if I can just let a week go by after payday without gambling I'll be able to get a better grip on things and maybe strt to learn to love with what I have...maybe that's the first step? I recently broke up with my partner of 10 years and I'm alone, no mates and back living with my parents, I go to the casino to forget about everything but it often leads to feeling worse and being more trapped....I have major anxiety and self loathing which feeds the cycle but ure not alone mate, I think it's not about getting better in a day perhaps if we change one thing to break the cycle maybe that's the way things might change. I also don't want to do this anymore I feel like I'm not moving forward and I'm always carrying a weight of failure and feeling trapped

Have u ever been to a meeting? I'm considering one but don't know where to go, maybe with some support we could break the cycle somehow 

I hope ure ok...just know ure not alone in how u feel I feel sad and rubbish daily bevause of the money I've lost and keep losing 

Hi Hopeless

Gambling addiction is so well designed isn't it ? It's the only addiction that tells you the way out is.to do it more. An alcoholic, drug addict etc has limits. Moments of clarity mean we face up to life but instead go back into the fog.

There are three ways that gambling takes you, prison, insanity or death

Recovery takes you one way and it's a great life but takes work and determination.

I'm not sure what solution you are looking for in your post mate but happy to reply if you want 

Recognising the cycle is important mate. You didn't have to come here for support, you could have just told yourself you have it under control. 

I am on day 28 G.f and have to flood my brain everyday with gambling support videos and reading up on other peoples stories. 

This is my longest break in 26 year, the more I understand about the illness, the more I stop hating myself and to get off this destructive path.

Step 1 though mate, reach out to the gamcare team.

They have given me gamban for free and I regularly speak with counciller. It's really, helpful. 

Good luck to you mate, everyone here wants you to succeed, use the support 🙂 

Plenty of GA meetings online gamblersinrecovery website which are 24/7 or in person ones on the GA website. Gamcare and GA have changed my life.

I would also suggest going to the 8pm chatrooms each night, I will be on tonight 

I feel the same. I lost £700 in a few hours after the money went into my account on Sunday night. I was awake at the time it went into and gambled straight away.  I made it back several times this week but lost it all again by Thursday. 

I gamble to pay bills and debts and end up more in debt.

i went to GA years ago but due to my abusive ex making me continue to gamble I never went back (it’s complicated). It was the one things that made me want to stop gambling, hearing other stories and how good they felt after giving it all up. I wil go back but I have no money to even get there after my car failed it’s mot. I decided to see if this chat forum would help me in the meantime. 

The sharing helps. My family doesn’t get it. 

Hi @Sarah,

I have replied on another one of your posts, but just to say welcome to the forum and that we are here on the helpline 24/7 for gambling-based support so please do reach out if you haven't already. 

Please do get in touch with Refuge if you feel you need, as they are here to support anyone who has experienced abuse and provide non-judgemental and listening support - https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/how-we-can-help-you/national-domestic-abuse-helpline/

Best wishes,

Phoebe

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