Going to keep this thread now!

Thanks Freda,

Have issues with my dad but very relieved all the same.

Still got debts to pay but have caught up with paying the everyday bills on time and not being late incurring those dastardly bank charges.

CONGRATULATIONS on 28 weeks thats fab news and feeling better too things are going your way keep up the good work.

E x

balls a rolling again hun....thnx xxxx

Hi Freda

Over 28 weeks now.Just wanted to congratulate you on how well you have done plus not been posting so often so its great to see you going strong.All the best Jeff.

Thanks Jeff : )

Had a bad night last night...am fine now but just could have done without it. One of my facebook friends put on his status 'going to ..... pub if anyone wants to join us for my birthday' I haven't seen this guy in years, but know him very well, and said to mr f why don't we go through for an hour? I need to get myself around people again. So off we went.

Well, in walks this guy and I smile and say "hello happy birthday, long time no see!" he looks at me blankly, says "thanks" then walks straight past. Me and hubby find this a bit strange slash rude, but smile sweetly and hover about....I get a cupcake from the bar and present it with it and again a brief "thanks" I ask have you had a nice birthday? "yes" then turns to talk to someone else. So we basically got blanked. Why the hell would you urge people to come out and then blank them. This pub used to be my local and I worked there for 2 years, so I did know these people really well. I just wanted the ground to swallow me up, I felt really uncomfortable. We left after one drink, and I had a panic attack outside.

I know 100% that this was a reflection on him, not me, but just could have done without it. I felt really stupid.

Anyway, there you go. Have had a nice morning, went for a massage as a payday treat. Going for some Reiki soon too. Will not let it spoil my weekend, but couldn't help feeling a bit s**t for a while.

That's sad that. It sounds as if it came from someone who just wanted as many people to come to the pub to celebrate his birthday, no matter how well he knew them.

I feel that this is a real disadvantage of social network sites. Yes there are many advantages like getting in touch with people you haven't seen in years.

But people really do abuse them. Who cares how many "friends" you have on FB? Who cares what you are doing every single minute of the day.

Don't let this get to you, you did well to make that decision to go out and try and be sociable, it just did not come from the other side.

Enjoy your massage!

GT

Hey Hun,

Sorry you had a bad night but that guy probably dosent have many friends so posting it on FB made sure he had lots of "friends" around him what a ******.

Any hoo have a nice relaxing weekend and enjoy yourself with Mr f.

Stay Strong.

E xx

Hi freda.....stuff like what happened in the pub is hard not to take personally...good for you for drinking up and leaving...its not you .... enjoy your Reiki and glad your weekend is not going to be affected by it.. ps ...could delete him off fb...

I agree, get rid of him!

GT

Hi Freda,

Just wanted to pop by to say thanks for posting on my diary, you have really helped me during my first week not just from your posts but from the honesty in your own diary. Sorry to hear about that 'friend', keep strong and have a good weekend.

Paul

Hi Freda

Hope the weekend improves as it goes. If you never went out you would never know what a twit this guy is. So take the positive from it and believe me what goes round comes round if you please. Personally I would try to foget it and move on in your life. I'm sure you have some close friends that would have been only too glad to have spent the evening with you and partner. Take care and have some soup and crusty bread for a snack!!

Aw, thanks for all the lovely replies : ) its nice to get a bit understanding, when you have felt a bit alienated by someone. I was just so baffled, because he was always such a lovely friendly bloke in the past. I think his wife was really embarrassed.

I would take him off my facebook, but it just seems so petulant and childish to react that way. I still wish him well, I just know that he is not my friend now. I do wonder if he would have been more friendly had we been the only ones who turned up. Weird.

The truth is, I haven't got many friends because I have been isolated for the last few years with anxiety and depression. I guess I never really had many, because the people who didn't stick around were never friends were they? I don't know why people have never really valued me, maybe I'm boring! lol

Perhaps drink got the better of him and he wasn't his normal self?

Just like us when we were hypnotised by this gambling madness.

Perhaps send him a message to ask if he enjoyed his party and that it was good to see him?

Then see what happens.

GT

Hi Freda

If you ever make any sense of this world please let me know!!

Take care

Hiya Freda,

I hope your having a better night tonight than last night. Birthday boy sounds like a right pillock.

I have suffered depression for a long time, the depression at it's worst in my twenties and had a nervous breakdown at thirty. I had quite a few friends..but! nothing I felt of great depth or connection. I always felt like a misfit.

Coming into my thirties is when I met real friends...I was all into creative writing at the time...and thats when I met like minded people. People who got me and valued me.

I Iearned i was just hanging round the wrong people for me....just wanted to let you know this.

Your far from boring 🙂 You have a brillaint sense of humour..and a kind heart.

Love Del xo

Hi Freda,

Just thought I'd check in on your diary. Thanks for giving me food for thought on mine, definitely sounds familiar to me.

Take care,

TJ

PS, that birthday bloke sounded bizarre. People never cease to amaze me.