Going to keep this thread now!

Aw thanks Rach, really touched by your support. It helps massively.

It was so nice to have someone give encouraging feedback about their own experiences and knowledge. Even if it turns out that my mortgage company don't agree, it has given me a bit hope whilst all this sinks in.

Have had a minor triumph on the medical records front. Everything positive helps at the moment. One less thing going wrong.

There were more than a dozen letters in my gp records, spanning a period of 5 years from psychiatrists. One of which included the diagnosis no-one believed I had received, at my previous GP surgery. The practice manager confirmed that she can update my medical record to include this diagnosis, and completely understood why I needed this to be done.

More power to me eh? Dealing with this has been the last thing I need, on top of everything else, and shame on my lazy ex GP for taking a six figure salary for doing f**k all. I will be seeking legal advice.

and re of course! thank you all xxx

Hi Freda,

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough patch on so many fronts. Sometimes it seems that the bad news never stops coming.

I really hope that you come through the other side of this as a stronger person. The fact you are not hiding away but facing up to the situation shows how strong you are.

I know that it is all a bit doom and gloom at the moment but don't feel bad about letting it all out, esepcially on here. You have helped so many in the past and now we are here for you. We may not all have the magic solution but we can stand by your side and support you every step of way.

Take care

Paulds

Hey Hun...you shall get through this and that I guarantee.....

This whole thing with people renting properties has been just another way for mtg lenders to make a fast buck ....

If you choose to rent with consent and don't want to switch to a buy to let mortgage....you will be classed as a reluctant landlord and a move for work is also a big positive in this instance...most companies keep you on the same rate..may charge an admin fee of 100 and then want additional insurance per month ..

There may even be some offset thing you can do ...

Google the words " love money reluctant landlords "and I think it's the 2nd link down ....it gives a chart of all uk lenders and their policy and costs about renting out a private property.

Think your hubby's company need to have relocation package for people..what if you had kids in school?....anyhoo....keep that spirit up girl....together we can get through anything on here xx

R and d xxx

God bless you paul and Rach,

I have had a lot of experiences of helping others, then being left to cope alone when the tables were turned, so it is truly humbling and good for my soul to have someone say "we are your friends and we are here for you".

Thank you from the bottom of my heart xx

Hi there

sorry no information to help over renting etc but just wanted to say a big well done over getting medical stuff sorted.

A few years back I was refused insurance one of the many times I re-mortgaged because a stupid GP had put in my file I was a smoker when I hadn't smoked for forty years. They refused to change it despite all my efforts and remains to this day so yours is a real achievement.

Hope you begin to feel your problems shrink to manageable size and as others have said to me this week, a spending spree can only make things worse, never better.

My thoughts are with you and thank you again for your help.

xxx

Hi Freda... sorry to hear that everything feels a bit pants at the moment.

I am the worlds worst at catastrophising my life problems but usually once ive had time to digest the shock of what life has thrown at me I find I can usually deal with it, as long as am not gambling my money away.

I know that this is easy for me to say but things generally do have a habit of working out, it just takes a while sometimes.

Stay focussed day to day and don't act on impulse. Thoughts are with you... S.A 🙂

Thank SA and re xx

As you rightly predicted SA - as each day passes

I am feeling slightly more able to cope. Shock is debilitating sometimes!

If anyone is reading this, and thinking "gee, I wish there was something I could say or do to cheer ole Freda up" sign this e-petition for me - if it gets over 100,000 signatures the government are obligated to discuss it in the house of lords. Signing it would make me very happy, please draw it to as many people's attention as possible!

https://submissions.epetition…direct.gov.uk/petitions/35092

Effing P***** off! Just went to the Mental Health Support Centre, to go to the class I have been attending there, to be told it's not on because the room is being decorated. They bothered to tell the tutor not to turn up, but us plebs they are paid to support, didn't get told. It really P****s me off, because the "senior" support worker is paid 20k a year as a support worker, but spends most of her time in the office behind a closed door. I wonder what her funders would think if they knew she does f**k all. That she is patronising and insincere, and the people she is paid to support and empower are the last on her list of priorities. I think they would be very interested to hear, considering she is paid by a charitable foundation. They would stop her funding immediately if they knew what she was really like.

Raging myself today Hun so probably not the best to be giving any words of wisdom....just to say I'm still reading and hear ya and now off to sign your petition..

If your anything like me , if youre angry inside, well meaning folks trying to jolly me out of it makes me even madder xx

R and d xx

hi Freda

sounds like a really S***e day for you.

Have put your petition on my Facebook and sent to all my friends so should get a few signed.

xxx

Ha!!! yes S***e in a word!

You girls rock xx

Hi Freda,

Thanks so much for popping by, your message of support bought a tear to my eye. You have been there for me from the start and it is people like you that I feel I have let down. I am probably using that as an excuse for letting myself down if that makes any sense.

Anyway it seems like we are both going through a tough patch and one thing we can't do is wallow in our own self-pity, wallow in marshmallows yes, self-pity no.

I am not here to say' chin up' or 'keep positive' as these phrases don't really help. I am here to say that together we CAN do this, we can get through this side by side with plenty of other gamcareres walking with us.

Even if it is hard for us to see we have come SOOOO far and we ARE much stronger than we think....

Take care

Paulds

That's the spirit Paul!

Yep if you haven't already guessed, I've been gambling again today.

No excuses. I wasn't trying to escape unbearable feelings, I just wanted to gamble.

I've had to be strong for a lot of things lately, and staying clean from a gambling addiction means you have be strong every time you are tempted for the rest of your life. Call it fatigue, call it whatever you want, but I didn't want to be strong today. I just wanted to do whatever I wanted to do.

I still accept I am a compulsive gambler, as much as ever, I will begin being strong again tomorrow. Today I had a f*****g day off.

Hi Freda... like you say, we all have those moments where we think "f*** it". We know its bad for us but we do it anyway. The f*** it head usually switches on with me when am drunk. The getting drunk is usually a response to stress. For me managing my stress levels is the key to not gambling.

Take care f and keep safe. back on the recovery wagon and taking the middle seat... thoughts are with you... S.A 🙂