I cannot believe i have done this to myself

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Adamjamal2014-2017
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Hi my name is adam. Where shall i start ! I never thought this would happen to me in a million year. I am ahard working guy and i was carefull with my money.i always had enough and saved a bit at the end of each month.

Saying that i am not all inocent i was always curious about gambling but afraid of trying it cuz my relatives lost fortunes in gambling and ruined their lives. I didnot see this happening to me. I always heard they won 10 of thousands and lost it all as they were greedy and wanted more. In my mind i had this thought how stupid they are, if it was me i would walk away with the thousands if i win. How wrong i was !

3.5 years ago my first bet was after xmas party, Đ’Đˆ20 made me Đ’Đˆ70. Then i said to my self if i make £50 every day i would be 1.5k better off everymonth. Stupid ha .

Now i am 15k in debt. £500 left in my account and i am day 8 gambling free. This is crazy, i think about trying to win some money back every day.

I am 31 years old in full time job. I cannot believe what i have done to my self. No one know about this problem. And i am finding extremly hard to move on.

 
Posted : 18th June 2017 12:50 pm
Adamjamal2014-2017
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Day 9 gambling free.
Firstweek was extremly hard. I will see how this week goes. Definitly no gambling but hopefully less urges too.

 
Posted : 19th June 2017 8:52 am
Loxxie
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Hi. ..and welcome Adam. .
None of us set out to become compulsive gamblers love...
It's a progressive problem. ....
There is no magic potion to fix the devastation that it can and will cause if YOU continue.....
To get to a better place...mentally and fiancially will take time...and serious effort from YOU...you'll need support from others...you'll get plenty on here...but you really need some from real Iife as well....I was also ashamed...embarresd. ..scared...and panic stricken about fessing up....but I don't know any body on here who's flown solo .....
Sooooo ....I say...to start with call the helpline....read as much as you can on here to get tips and ways to fight back. ...not easy I know....but it can be done. ..
You've done some days already...so just keep saying I will not gamble today. ...and worry about tommorrow....and the next day as it comes...make that call love...x

 
Posted : 19th June 2017 9:12 am
Adamjamal2014-2017
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Thanks loxxie for the support. Today is day 10. Its been a tough day.high urges,stressful day at work but no gambling..

 
Posted : 20th June 2017 8:12 pm
Lightsout
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Hi Adam,

I have moments of not believing it also, then moments of it hitting me like a freight train. I am only 1 day gamble free. And yeah, I have just posted about the urges leeching onto thoughts of monies lost. We know that's a fool's logic though, we would not be in this position if it were truly possible to win it back. The mind is so powerful, we just have to start making it work *for* us, not against us. You are doing so well at 10 days and that is encouraging for me to hear that the urges reduce after the first week. I did not think much about gambling during the day, however early mornings and evenings were habitual times for me, so I am feeling them now. I am crossing everything for you!

 
Posted : 20th June 2017 9:53 pm
Adamjamal2014-2017
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Hi lightsout,

Hopefully u still holding on. Day 11 for me. My debt is on my mind all the time and i am thinking about ways to pay it off and guess what, my brain tells me. I can pay it out quickly if i win some money back. But hell no , i tried it .. i didnot work.
I am Looking forward for my payday not a penny is going on gambling this time...

 
Posted : 21st June 2017 7:55 pm
Adamjamal2014-2017
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Day 12.
Thinking about gambling today..high urges come with thinking about money .. read few posts today helped me to hold on..

 
Posted : 22nd June 2017 8:20 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Well done adam 12 days gamble free is good going, keep it up!

Conradnose

 
Posted : 22nd June 2017 8:42 pm
Adamjamal2014-2017
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Day 13 gambling free. I got paid today so you can imaging the urges rocketing. I am praying to stay strong.. this is really hard i wish i never known gambling ...

 
Posted : 23rd June 2017 7:27 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Have you told anybody about your gambling Adam like a family member or friend? Can they look after your money for you? Having urges and not having access to money is half the battle but having urges with access to money could be a problem.

All the best Adam

 
Posted : 23rd June 2017 9:16 pm
Adamjamal2014-2017
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I havenot told anyone. I am so ashamed of what i have done. The main reason i want to give up and stop this gambling episode is that i donot want to get caught one day and exposed. If i let it out then i will be back in it as i wont give a d**n any more cuz i would be saying eveyone about this. I know this might be weird but my pride and decent reputation within my family is main my drive to stop this evil. 2 weeks gambling free today.

 
Posted : 24th June 2017 7:56 am
(@Anonymous)
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Hi Adam,

Keep strong, you seem to have a smart head on your shoulders so i have no doubt you will be able to keep it up. Keep yourself busy :).

Martin

 
Posted : 24th June 2017 4:18 pm
Adamjamal2014-2017
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Thanks Martin.

 
Posted : 24th June 2017 4:54 pm
(@sars27)
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Everyone is an individual Adam.. whatever works for you go for it ! As long as you're happy and taking it one day at a time . All the best Sars đŸ™‚

 
Posted : 24th June 2017 6:37 pm
Adamjamal2014-2017
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Thanks Sars,
Day 15 gambing free. I feel fresh today with less urges. If i get more days like this I will feel more happy.

 
Posted : 25th June 2017 2:59 pm
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