Im only just starting but im onto day 3 without gambling which is a start. I need to get through to Friday which is the day im dreading as it is the 1st time i will have had money in a few days and i really fear i will just relapse and go back to square one. I have self excluded from my online accounts which is a start but im only just starting the process of self excluding from the bookies so i just need to stay really strong. Friday is also the day that my parents return from holiday and i have to own up to them how i stole £450 from them which was sitting upstairs whilst they were away. This is going to be the hardest thing i have ever done in my life but i know it is what i need to do as it will be a massive step in my recovery. Hopefully they will understand but im just so scared to tell them. Ive been dreading there return for days now. It gets me so down and i honestly sometimes feel like it would be better if i ended things.
Hey chrish I got yer back jack,
Its going to be hard to face them,but its going to be your support when you get down, and bare in mind they are going to be very protective off you during this vunerable time.
You can do it.
Also if it helps go on youtube and type motivation no excuses , its 6.56 long i listen to it 4 times every morning before work
I second that. We are right behind you. Sadly there is no easy way to own up to your love ones. Everyone has a different relationship with their parents. I hope yours appreciate your honesty and offer to make good.
Gambling has made many of us feel like it would be better if we ended it. But nothing is worth that and YOU are worth more than than. I do not care how bad things get I value my life more.
Be straight with your parents. Matter of fact is good. Apologise and reassure them that the gambling is behind you and be bullish about moving on with you life. You may find they know more than you realise anyway if your addiction has got to the point of pinching.
Keep posting and let us know how you get on.
Markman
Hi C
Following my post on the newbies page just want to say glad you have started a diary here. Great advice from R and M above and yes, we are all behind you with your decision to tell your parents. I know how scary it must be but keep remembering that it really is a big necessary step to sorting your life so try to stay calm. Will be keeping fingers crossed for you all tomorrow.
Gam.
Day 4 today. Still having urges to gamble all the time. Im still absolutely dreading tomorrow as it will be the 1st day i have access to money again but also because it is the day i have to tell my parents. Ive never been so scared in my entire life, I really feel like I may get chucked out and then i will have nowhere and no one to turn to, but its one of those things i have to do. Im so scared that i feel like just writing a letter and disappearing for a few days and letting everything die down. I really dont know how to break it too them
Hi again - know its a big day for you today. First of all, not a good idea to write a letter because face to face will show more that you are facing up to your problems. You have already started on your recovery by going 4 days and you have put self-exclusion etc in place so you must emphasise to them that you have a real problem and need their support and are willing to go along with anything they ask you to do now. I am not going to lie, your parents will be shocked and not really know what to think immediately but if you want to recover you need to start being honest right now, however hard it is.. You know them best and how they may react so I can say not really say much more than a lot of parents on here that write in have given support. As a parent I can feel for your parents today and I can also feel for you because you are so remorseful about what you have done. I really hope you will all be ok and let us know how you get on. Either way it is a good idea to stay on here and talk to people. Good luck for the rest of today C and resist those urges today of all days.
Thanks for the words. my parents do not arrive back until 6pm so that is when i have to do the deed as they say. Feel in a good mood today, trying to sort out other means of enjoyment. Hoping to join a gym, think that will take my mind off things a bit. I still feel the urge to gamble today but i have not gave in yet which is a good thing. Hopefully my parents are understanding with me later.
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