NEW DAWN , NEW DAY , FEELING GOOD !

An epic post indeed, everything seems to have gone to plan no drama at all.

It seems like your daughter is as proud of as we are. Normally I'm that guy who when I get shown the pictures I nod politely but I'm actual looking forward to seeing these, if only they was a way I could see them.

Let's smash this last month out of the way, a pleasure as always.

KTF

Alan - that last post was fantastic, although I imagine it was even more of a rollercoaster to actually experience yourself!

Great that your daughter had a fantastic wedding, and that despite the hiccups everything went off well. Just another example of why this addiction needs a hefty boot out of our lives, and why the benefits of not gambling are so dramatically better.

All the best,

Ryan

Hi Guys and thank you all for your lovely comments regarding my Daughters wedding :))

I've just come on here to say goodbye really , I've come back here after a great event in my life has just taken place and to be honest I'm appaled that admin have allowed once again Gambler Toads post ,( which are just designed to wind everybody up ) to go once again unchecked , yet those in genuine recovery from gambling are the ones that are being chastised for dareing to critisize these so called genuine posts .

If these posts are to be believed then as Dan suggested , this guy needs some serious help .

I've just emailed admin and let them know how I feel about the way everyones been treated and hope you all get the apology you deserve .

No big rant or epic post this time , just a simple " Thank You " to everyone of you thats given me the strength and allowed me to to get to a better place , where I can appreciate the important people and things around me .

Last week watching my daughter marry the man she loves was a turning point for me and proved just what you can achieve with life when you set your mind to it and for me there's no going back now :))

It's been seriously emotional and love to all .

My name is Alan and I'm / was ? a compulsive gambler 335 day's ago :)))) xxxxx

See you soon. More comebacks than Deano!!!!!!!.

Only joking and be good x

Hey Mr fish...
Quite understand what your saying...it's just not fair that one person can have such an impact on so many other people's recovery....can't beleive that admin have ignored us all....but hey ho...I'm one of the lucky ones...you guys helped get me to the place in at now...I've had tears. laughs..and loads and loads of invaluable advice from you boys and for that I THANKYOU Alan from the bottom of my heart.....Will defo miss you zillions x

Cheers Al - hope we are always 100 days apart! Take care, Scott

Hi bud, drop admin an email to send me your email if you want to stay in touch. For some reason I actually believe you this time.

Been a pleasure and honour thank you for all your support.

KTF

Al - you're a legend pal - I hope this isn't the last I hear from you! Thanks for all your support. I'll get to where I need to be and pay you back for all the hours you given to me. Take care. Favourite joke... "I'll have a crocodile and chips... and make it snappy".

Don't say Goodbye Pops 🙁

This site isn't 'run' by Admin (or they wouldn't leave people hanging for days)...It's those of us fighting for our own recovery on both sides of the fence that make it work!

If Toad is the troll people believe him to be & not just a very sick man, kidding us the way we used to kid ourselves then he will have won by people downing tools & leaving!

But! If you are ready to go, then just close the cover so you can come back to it @ any time...Please don't delete this diary!

As above, my earlier offer also stands to switch emails!

Agree with Kelly just walk away if you need tondon't delete your posts and diary I'd just look like I'd been talking to myself in my diary.

Totally agree...please don't delete.. .far to much advice from a booty like you to go down the pan !
And I want to be able to come here and wish you happy 1st birthday in 30 odd days....even if you don't see it...lol
If I'm being selfish my boot. ...and you really feel it's time to hang up your cap...for you...and no other reason. ...then I wish you well...I understand...and i know you'll be just fine xx

Alan I respect your decision. And have had some great chats with you over the month's ive been on this page. But this place needs guy's like you to keep the balance
And will. Be much worse off with out you. At least see the year out its not far away now. And I was looking forward to an epic post come next month.
What ever you chose to do you have my email address if you ever need to chat. But I suspect you're that old you haven't figured out how to work it yet lol sorry couldn't resist one last old joke
Deano x

Hi, Alan,

Belated congratulations on the wedding.

I'm probably going to get lynched for this but ... you're still and always will be a CG, no past tense. At the moment, you're a CG who is gf in recovery and the forum here is one of your main tools. It's not in your best interests to discard an important tool because you're (understandably) angry with another user. If you plan to change tools and go to meetings and counselling instead, or another forum, fine. But don't fall into the complacency trap and think that you don't need anything. His issues are his issues and your issues are your issues, he shouldn't direct what you do. And he shouldn't stop you giving the help and support that you do to newcomers and not so newcomers.

BW,

CW.

Ah, Uncle George...don't go. I need you!! You're one of the old guard who I can always rely on for support. A shoulder to cry on, a "well done" pat on the back or even a kick up the ar@se when needed. I don't like goodbyes....so I'm refusing to say it to you:)

Obviously this isn't all about me, so I'll pitch a few thoughts about you as well. There has to be something about this place that keeps you coming back. Whatever it is...friendship, banter, commaraderie, helping others and the good feelings that can bring....I don't know what it is for you..... but you must get something from the forum or else you wouldn't have stayed around for so long. Sometimes just noting the journey and being able to write out all the good that is happening in our lives is a therapy in itself (a bit like a gratitude diary). I don't want you to lose that, because I think it does you good. Also, there might be days when you're not feeling so strong. Days that you're having a wobble (it happens) ...and I want you to have somewhere to go to offload and reach out. I know you've got the support of your partner and family but this place is still full of people who understand where you're coming from. I'm also wondering whether after all the preperation and excitement and focus on the wedding whether you might expereince a bit of a comedown over the next few days? Probably not, but it wouldn't be unusual to feel a bit flat and now that focus and driving force has gone it might not be suprising if Mr.G tries to whisper in your ear again.

Listen, I wish you well in whatever you do. Honestly, I don't think you should go but in truth that's because I've already picked out a cyber hat for your own upcoming proposal 🙂 🙂 And by the way, the update about the wedding had me smiling and wiping a tear in equal measure. LB x

Alan thanks for the post it means a lot. Especially that late at night I no you old ones like to get an early rise lol

Alan I think it took that day to give me a wake up call. I haven't been trying to quit I've just been hanging on hoping something would change for me.
Of late I've been looking back to much trying to see where it all went wrong. I've got to move out of the past and start living in the present and that's what I'm going to do. It's time to forgive myself.
Tbh I didn't get what I thought I would out of it. It wasn't what I'd craved.
I've sorted some real changes and yesterday was the start of the fight back
Thanks again for popping back
And don't be a stranger
Xx