Newbie Here Nervous But Need To Break This Horrible Cycle

Jadie Stonehouse wrote:

Hey all

Gambled for ever and got into huge debt - stopped - then eventually back on again but i need to break this cycle. Had an eventful life at the age of 33 even having major surgery 6 weeks ago seems like every problem i face i go back to my old silly self rather than asking for help or dealing with my emotions but then I dont know where to start if im honest. Anyways i made a start rung last night desperate upset and thought i had no where to turn and after an hour of speaking with Mariam we had a plan and my first steps to take, i understand this will be a big journey and not a short one but i have to stop before it wrecks my marriage well it all ready has and the trust is gone again! Sounds like i cheated or something but i havent well i suppose i actually have in a way I did what i promised i wouldnt again. again and again! So thats me 16 years and a very bad addiction which has ended up affecting most things in my life and especially happiness it's drained it all away just like the money......... I need this to stop now and don't want things to get any worse even though i feel this probably is the bottom of the barrell i'm eager to climb out the barrell and fill it full of lovely things in my life again x If anyone has any suggestions or help or advice or just a note to say Hi i would appreciate it very much. Jx

Hi Jadie..

Welcome lovely, day 19 for me. Been here before had stopped for 2 yrs. So... Like you it's taking that step.

Sorry you was upset, glad you had a good talk. Your half way there opening up about it.

You should tell your other half its a addiction just like smoking, drugs, even food. It's a illness. It's not frivous petty game playing. Look on here for a post about Allen Carr.. Shaun on here recommended a book about giving up gambling. I'm on chapter two so far. Excellent understanding on why we gamble. Get the book, you and your spouse should read it. Its a sickness, depression is now being treated like a illness.

You can stop, I got every faith in you.
Chat later I generally log in later.
Bella xx

Hi Jadie, I just wanted to say there are lots of us in the same boat. I have been a CG for years and I recently relapsed and ended up in £5k of debt. Today I decided enough is enough so I signed up here to try and get some support from people suffering the same way I am. Take it one day at a time, it won’t be easy but keep talking and hopefully we can all get over this horrible addiction.

Hi Jadie, have you considered Gamstop. It has helped me. Some peope don't like it because it takes away your choice, it all depends I suppose how commited you are. If you feel this is too drastic a step for you at the moment, keep coming on here. The people are great and don't judge you at all. I guess we all started for a reason, mine was I lost my Husband and it was a distraction because of the hurt. I wish you every success x

Hi Jadie, just having this here is a great help and reading others stories, most of the time you can see your own story in theirs ... but also can be full of inspiration, if one person can do it we all can! Also great links to others stories of success and journies. Good luck and keep positive

kaz x