quitforever

Hello quitforever

Thanks for starting a diary - I hope you find this a useful way to record your recovery and get support from others along the way. I was just wondering if you meant to start this thread in the New Member Intros section rather than the Recovery Diaries section? I have edited the thread so it can be found in the diaries section as well - this way even more people will be able to read it.

Very best wishes for your recovery

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I'm in the same boat tbh I'm just not in debt yet.. Thankgod, but if I carry on I can see it ending badly..i waste so much money onit.. I could easily have a deposit on a house it's crazy I hate to add up what iv lost the past 6 months.. I'm only 24 I need to stop now im living with my parents aswell I'm just worried If I carry on I can never move out!

But I hope you really stick to it and not gamble as because your parents are moving away, if you go back to gambling when they have gone if could end badly and you could end up without a roof over your head.

But im sure you will be fine were all here to help each other which is good.

Bbman91 thanks for your post. I'm completely committed to quitting 100% and understand the consequences if I don't. You're right I'd end up on the streets which would be terrifying. I've got a great job and a caring family so I need to keep them not lose them through that stupid habit I had. Trust me Bbman91 don't ever gamble again it will draw you in to my situation 6.3k debt and puts life on hold. I'm 31 and need a house otherwise I'll be too old to get a mortgage. I'm saving up for a bigger deposit now and await my credit file being back to square one

Yeah I'm sure you will be fine.. Iv found checking into this site each day helps a lot.. I login in here instead of a online gambling account, and read some threads it helps a lot.

It's just possibility of relapsing bothers me going for a couple months gamble free and then slipping up and losing a large amount. Hopefully this doesnt happen.

It wont mate you've got to believe that

I've done a few months here and there and felt like I've been on top and have say 3k in the bank but trust me one little bet turns into disaster from hell

Keep believing and keep busy and occupied

Pick up a new hobby

Ps I'm now on day 15 had a good day at work apart from a pay day loan company trying to get 600 out of me for a 300 loan. Told them as a responsible lender they need to freeze interest but they deny any wrong doing, might take it to financial ombudsman take these clowns down a peg

Other than that admitted to mum that I borrowed off their laptop two months ago and getting it back 21st (pay day) they think it's in for repair. I came clean recently but this I couldn't admit as I thought a straw too many (break camels back)

She took it well and I've asked her not to tell dad as he'd go sick

She took my hand and said no more now

Another reason to never ever touch that stupid gambling trigger ever again

Quitforever

Hiquitforever.

You need to concentrate on being gamble free and continuing with your counselling. The rest will come along with a happy and heathly mindset.

Dont worry about too much at once. Reach out for help because there is no shame in that. I feel you need to tell both parents and build that relationship up again. Its hard but honesty is crucial and the laptop is dangerous deceipt bordering on theft. Somehow if you can bring that out..its what you must do. The people close to you must understand how serious a gambling addiction is. They must be under no illusion how it grabs people and controls minds

This is what gambling related debts can make people do so you have just lost your way. Gambling makes wrecks of good and intelligent people. Its crucial that you know and are honest about the lengths it took you to

The fog will lift when you get financial advice. You must stop all those payday loans and break free from that cycle. Its the worst way to borrow and you must live within your means. The stuff and the goodies dont matter for now...you must live within your means every month and understand that money is hard earned. You say you have a good job but the pay day loans were a sign of someone struggling with previous gambling and living expenses. Thats how it looks on a credit record I can assure you

You can only afford to pay back what you can afford. You need plenty of advice and the CAB are very helpful

I hope you have blocks in place and people helping you. You will not do this on willpower alone and must never be complacent.

The people here can really help you. A visit and chat with the doctor may be a good idea

Best wishes

Hi joydivider and thank you for your post.

I told my mum last night but not my dad as he doesn't understand why I had gambled and is very angry with me currently.

On the 21st I buy the laptop back, I borrowed money against it of 200 so will pay back 265 on pay day. With the balance of my wage I'm paying everything off pro rata and leaving myself 50 a week living. Hopefully should be fine.

I'm on day 16 now and still feel strongly I will never gamble again

I'm committed to this and have help staying committed

Looking forward to chat room tonight it's great

Thats great.

Your parents will deal with it in their own way but telling them was the best thing you could do. Obviously they love you and wont fully understand at the moment what they see as shocking waste of money.

Over time they will come to understand that there is more to it than you just doing something to upset them. They will understand that gambling drags good people into serious addiction. They will understand how the gambling industry spend on advertising and the modern bonus games to drag you in

Keep focusing on gambling being a mugs game because it is. Its a losers game for people who ignore the odds. All it does is take your money to fund a high life for the industry. Gambling is never the answer and you will think about it less and less until you cant understand why you would even waste a pound

Its sounds very good the chat room. Keep using that and the forum because there are very helpful people on here.

Talk through any feelings. Counselling and your parents will be a great help

It looks as though you are on the right track. Double those blocks and dont be afraid of proving yourself and being monitored. Its part of the healing process.

All the best

18 days feel good

Hi quit, you're doing really well and well done for taking the steps to tell your mum. It will be good for you to have somebody close to talk to. My mum has been very supportive and has always been there when I needed someone to talk to.

Remember not to let your guard down and if that nagging voice starts tell him where to go and don't give in. You can do this and you will be at a month before you know it.

Take care.

Day 20 and still going strong. Need to go for a run today but cant get motivated. Putting on weight which is depressing arghh

Well done day 20 is good and strong from you . im at day 13 today and a bit more at peace with myself . Today we will not gamble ! , and good luck on losing weight ... im trying as well !!! ... well done on youre recovery Quit !

Hi lost soul and thanks for your comment, went for a long run today, managed to pick up the courage and did 10k, about 3k was walking as not fit enough yet. Will try for a full 10k next week or week after. Day 21 now feel great so much more to life