Hey there.
I’m posting this as I feel I need to just kind of write it all down as I’ve been living in my head with it and I’m driving myself mad.
basically, I’ve had a short 1 month spell of incredibly damaging gambling, using online slots. For years I’ve enjoyed the odd bit of gambling now and then but never more than £50. This last month I have gone out of control and am now £5000 in debt and struggling to see how I’ll ever recover from this, I don’t know how it got so bad so quick. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself 🙁
I’d lose a few hundred and think ‘that’s enough’ and self -exclude, then I’d just open a new account on another website. I dread to think how many accounts I’ve opened now 🙁
I work full time and I think I just got so fed up of still having no money to do anything nice like go on holiday and things like everyone else I know, that I thought I could win big if I just staked enough… and well, I’m sure we all know how that goes.
I have my car due an MOT next week and I honestly don’t know how I’m going to pay for it, let alone all the upcoming birthdays in my family etc.
does anyone have any advice or words of hope?
Thank you
Hi
There is a much better life beyond gambling if you want it. There are mechanisms to help, networks for support and with will power it can be done. I gambled uncontrollably for 44 years and it ends up with complete chaos in the brain. I saw no way out, absolutely no way out. I am only in the early days of recovery being 94 days gamble free but I can't tell you how much better my life is. I'm not telling you what to do but I think you know where this can lead to. You could use that big loss as a wake up call before it all gets worse.
Talk to the advisors on here and come to the 8pm chatrooms and there is a whole world of support and help. You are not alone and there are people that can help
Stuart
i admited to having a gambling problem last thursday. and now i know i have been lying and manipulating everyone i care about to get what i want. i have broken my wifes heart as i have lied to her. she is asking me why and right now i dont have the answers, i hate who i have become and i want to change
Hi Howie
Try and come to the chatrooms tonight
Hi,
Just writing on here as I feel like no one around me understands the difficultly of this! I am
only on 24 hours on Gamban as I blew a lot of money again! It’s a vicious cycle and I really can’t see a way out! I am already wanting to get this off my phone and carry on! But it’s mentally destroying me never mind financially ! I am 36 and I was late diagnosed with ADHD two years ago and suffer really badly with mental health anyway! And this was part of my daily routine which is difficult as I hate change anyway and now it’s just gone! I just feel lost and hopeless like i know I will never find anything that will come close to gambling but even when I tried to lower deposit limits etc I always have to go over board and play on like 20 sites so it’s still big losses I just can’t see the end of the tunnel! And it says this is the hardest recovery! I just need to try and realise that by playing I am loosing regardless as I blow anything I win also
@1xwo97qmlc Sorry to hear about your struggles at the moment, dealing with gambling urges can be really difficult. Please do come through to our helpline and speak with one of our adviser's to get support with this, you can contact us on live chat or by calling 0808 8020 133.
Here are some mental health signposts you might find useful also:
There is a charity called the Samaritans who run a helpline dedicated for people feeling the effects of poor mental health, like us they are there 24/7 and you can reach them on the freephone 116 123 or online using this link www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan
You can contact the text service give us a SHOUT on 85258 which is a 24/7 service which allows you to reach out and speak with someone about anything that is currently affecting your mental health.
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