This is just a follow up of my story trying to stop gambling, I am now 3 days without playing blackjack. I wouldn't say I miss it but it is on my mind. I'm going to bed most evenings and think about things. Like money and the balance on my credit card from this and it does really bother me. I'm waking up in the middle of the night with really bad drams that I have lost £50K and I have take out more and more loans and more credit cards. I hate this. I don't even want to think about it anymore I want to be debt free and live a normal life with my partner doing normal things like going for walks and fun days out. Spoiling my girlfriend rotten and not giving it to poxy casinos.
Like I said 3 days I have gone, maybe I'm just upset and thinking about my debt a bit to much and not to just accept it and move on?
I find that not checking my bank balance daily helps.I assume that normal people don't check their balance daily and just enjoy living. Gambling has made me not normal, full of fears. By day worrying about money and by night itching for adrenaline.This time off year isn't easy either
Well done on day 3 btw. Just keep 2017 and all of its opportunities in the forefront of your mind
I agree this time of the year can be a bit stressful. That's my plan I want to change everything. Thank you for help
Hi Messy, How are things going? Stay strong my friend
Hey it's been a week now, just upsets me when I think how much I've lost over the years. How are you doing
Well done on your week, you have to draw a line under the losses and concentrate on the better life your going to have and how much you will have saved by this time next year or debts you have started to pay off x
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Hi Messy, well done on your 7th day..Really fab.Try not to dwell on what's been spent in the past.It's history. I know I for one don't have a healthy relationship with money in general, so will fix that once I am strong enough to not bring anxiety into the equation. As long as payments are made that's what's important. We need to feel the benefits of not throwing our money away for a bit.
Nice post
allainepo wrote:
Hello Messy i know the money situation can weigh heavily on a persons mind, if you keep working at your recovery there is a good chance you will come to terms with your money after a while but it will take time i am sure you know that. It took me 6 years to settle my IVA so i know how it feels to be consumed by money thoughts. If you can stick to the things you want to be doing like you mentioned in your 1st post i.e. walking with your partner, (cheap) fun days out with your partner and spoiling your partner rotten (i am sure she would prefer your time and thoughts to money) then you will be doing great. I know the money thoughts are hard i have been there but hopefully your recovery will evolve as we all do through the passage of time and that you will come to terms with your monetary loss. More important is not to lose any more money to gambling and more important still is to not lose any more time or energy to gambling.
Messy, you are doing brilliant with a week under your belt!
Keep it going, we are all with you - shoulder to shoulder.
Yes money is an issue but sadly it's gone but what you can regain is a happy life and try to be stress free but also the respect and trust of your loved ones most importantly your wellbeing onwards and upwards
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