Relapsed again:(

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Day@atime I agree I don't think he is ready to quit. I think he us in denial but doesn't relied it. There is no way I will give him money, I have told him I am there for him no matter what. Thank u for your comments.

Darren cov

I was trying to keep an eye on his finances, u see I used to do his banking online when he was younger so I have always know his user name and passwords, this is how I found out, because we where getting calls form credit card companies etc asking for my son, so I accessed his online banking because I know something was wrong, I knew he wouldn't b pleased but I had to get to the bottom of it. Since this he has now changed his passwords, not a good sign I know but I have told his girlfriend and she has told me she is going to make him show his accounts to her. Every time I try to ask him about it he says I am interfering in his business. He thinks that I am trying to take control, but it is had trying to convince him all I am trying to do is help. I feel I need to take control to put my mind a rest to stop me worrying about him, but he see it as interfering. I don't know what else I can do.

Joydivider

I have now told is girlfriend what us going on which I hope is going to help. Unlike u my son smokes doesn't drink but I know he has used drugs, this is why I feel he is depressed because he is always trying to find a high from one thing or another. His girlfriend has persuaded him to see a doctor and has given him gamcares number, hopefully he will ring it. She has said because he won't let me do his finances that she will make him show her his accounts. Anyway they are all steps in the right direction, but the worry I feel is immense, I love him so much and just want the best for him. But I feel I have to step back a little, because me questioning him all the time, is making him angry and I don't want to add to his anxiety. It is hard to know what to do for the best. I don't know whether he has borrowed more money, maybe he has another account somewhere that I don't know about, who knows, but with all the thing about data protection no company will tell u anything about the financial situation even if u tell them there is a problem. Just hoping now he knows we know he has the sense to realise what he is doing to himself and others and seek help.

Everything I've read here is so familiar, basically, all gamblers are lyers to themselves and anyone around them to feed their illness. I've done all manor of deciept and lies to fund my 'habit'....It's this that destroys us, makes us feel low, guilty, depressed, unwanted and ultimatly, suicidal because you feel you are better off out of the world, than on it, living the lye that you do.

Put your trust in someone close, admit and confess everything, deny you'll ever be able to 'recoup' ANY of your losses, self exclude yourself from anything that feeds the demon, and do not give yourself access to any cash...it's the only thing that has helped me, and the person that is helping out, must be strong enough to HELP and say NO...it's like a drug addict coming off heroin, trust me, my wife knows too well!!!

Stay strong and keep focused! ONE DAY AT A TIME!